Month: June 2014

Remember the Orange…

In the Rainbow Flag, Orange represents Healing.

We can interpret the word “healing” in many ways.

According to  the word “healing” means, “curing or curative; prescribed or helping to heal.”  It also means “growing sound; getting well; mending,” and finally, “the act or process of regaining health.”

Where are you healing?  Are you healing physically?  Are you healing emotionally?  Are you healing mentally?  Are you healing Spiritually?  Are you healing sexually?  Are you healing financially?

Are you open and receptive to healing at all?  You may be surprised how many people are not at all open to healing.

In the Chakra System, Orange is the color of the Sacral Chakra, which is in the area of the genitalia and reproductive organs.  This Chakra has to do with appetite, sexuality, creativity, and how we relate to others.

From a Metaphysical perspective, blockages or leaks in this Chakra co-exist with stifled creativity, sexuality, sensuality, or even feelings of creative, sexual, and/or financial inadequacy.

If any of these feelings are true for you, it is possible that you may wish to consider being open and receptive to working with the color orange as a way of Healing yourself, from the inside out.

A fully healed and healthy Sacral Chakra looks like a rich orange sunrise.  Have you ever seen that rich, coppery red of a sunrise (or a sunset, for that matter)?  That rich, orange, coppery color is what a healthy and vibrant Sacral Chakra looks like.

Also, your creativity flows, be it artistically or in other ways.  Although I AM neither a fine artist, nor a skilled artisan (such as jewelry maker), but I AM creative in how I express my love and adoration to the people I love and adore, as well as with my writing.

Also, when the Sacral Chakra is healthy and well, we express ourselves, sexually in a way that is fulfilling, vibrant, and yes, healing, for ourselves, and for the people with whom we have sex.

And finally, we are capable of not only believing but knowing that we can create, manifest, and maintain financial prosperity.

I highly recommend wearing orange, even under your clothes, as a way of strengthening your Sexual Energy.  In my life, I have had sex with two different men who were wearing orange underwear before I had sex with them, and let me tell you, their Sexual Energy was quite strong, as evidenced in their especially strong erections.

Also, if it works for you, increase the consumption of orange foods, such as oranges and orange peppers, as well as tangerines, and you may wish to use paprika, which for me certainly has a coppery red color.

You may also wish to engage in a visualization of a Light Color Bath.  In your Mind’s Eye, visualize a bright orange beam of light being absorbed into your body, as well as streaming into your genital areas.

You can also work with orange-colored Crystals, such as Carnelian (which, for many, is ideal in healing and strengthening the Sacral Chakra), as well as Orange Calcite.

Of course, an orange colored candle can also help, as well as taking a bath with Orange Blossom Water.

I would love to hear for how many of you this applies.  In other words, have you been experiencing Sacral Chakra issues?  Have you been forgetting or remembering the orange?

Thank you, one and all, for honoring who you are and what you do, and for honoring who I AM and what you do, too.Orange_Background

Remembering the Purple…

On Thursday, April 10, 2014, I published the post, “Red, a la NaPoWriMo…”  You can read it by visiting

I had been Divinely Guided to write a series of blog posts about the colors of the Rainbow Flag.  My intention and desire was to write a poetic post for each color of the Rainbow Flag in honor of National Poetry Writing Month (or, NaPoWriMo, for short).

However, between a very busy professional schedule, followed by a major health scare, followed by a great deal of Healing, and then a busier professional schedule, it did not happen.

Purple in the Rainbow Flag represents Spirit.  Many of us refer to Spirit by different names: Goddess, God, Lord Most High, the Universe, etc.

As an openly Gay Man, and a Witch, as well as a Happily-Recovered-Catholic, I refer to Spirit as Goddess.  Many Jews refer to Spirit as the “Lord Most High.”  Some of us use other beautiful terms, such as “Divine Great Mystery,” or “Universal Life Source Energy.”

What does Spirit mean to you?  Does it represent a Being, or an Energy?  Or both?

When you look at the color purple, how do you feel?

Personally, as a Witch, and especially as a Moon Magick Witch, I especially love the color purple.  I love Amethysts, and have several pieces of jewelry set with that gemstone.  I love purple foods, such as Concord grapes and eggplants, and love Lavender (the herb and the Essential Oil, but also the color).

According to one of my favorite books, The Goddess’s Guide to Love, by Margie Lapanja (Copyright 1999, Conari Press, Berkeley, California), Thursday, Day of Jupiter, is an ideal day to wear purple, lavender, or lilac.

I recall reading a Star Trek: The Next Generation novel in which Counselor Deanna Troi loved wearing purple when she was feeling amorous.

That purple is traditionally associated with the Crown Chakra, located on the inside top of the head, the Energy Center of the Universe and of Spirit, is no coincidence.

For some, wearing purple is also an empowering color.

For example, let us say that you are feeling vulnerable and afraid of taking on a new challenge in your professional life, or beginning a new endeavor in your personal one.  Perhaps wearing purple could empower you in remembering your strengths and help you focus on what needs to be accomplished, as opposed to succumbing to your fears and insecurities.

If you use purple in this way, please share your experience in a comment.

As I AM running behind on another writing project, I AM keeping this short and sweet,.  However, before I close, I wish to acknowledge my newest blog follower, “artgland.”  Thank you for honoring who you are and what you do, and for honoring who I AM and what I do, too.

And for those of you already following or reading “This Gay man’s Life…” thank you for may we continue to radiate purple and our Spirit, brightly, boldly, powerfully, and PRIDEfully.purple

Meeting “Mommy Man…”

This past Monday, June 16, 2014 (the day after Father’s Day this year), I had the honor and pleasure of going to the Barnes & Noble Booksellers store on West 82nd Street and Broadway in the Upper West Side section of Manhattan to see Jerry Mahoney, yet another WordPress-blogger-turned-published-author, read from his new book, Mommy Man: How I Went from Mild-Mannered Geek to Gay Superdad.

Now, for the record (especially in case some of you were wondering), I love children.  For years, I have been told that I would make a wonderful father.  And my Sun-Sign is Capricorn, which is the Sign of the Father (human and Divine).

Nonetheless, the thing that I love most about children, is that I can say to them, “OK, it’s time for you to go back to your Mommy (or Daddy).  There she/he is!  GO!  YAY!”

If they are my children, I do not have that option.

Nonetheless, I commend Mr. Mahoney, and all the other Gay Men and Lesbians, as well as Transgendered folks and Bisexuals, too, who wish to have children, as well as the ones who are already raising them and doing so wonderfully.

Given that I AM a fanatic for punctuality, and given that Mercury is Retrograding, I not only wanted to be early, but I wanted to make doubly sure I was early as possible.  Not only was I early, but I had enough time to go to the Starbucks inside this Barnes & Noble store for a coffee.  With coffee in hand, I made my way to the upper level for the event.

Interestingly enough, the last time I was in this Barnes & Noble store (which was also my first time in that particular store) I was there for another book signing and book reading event with a Gay Male author.  Two actually (SEE “Tom and Trebor: Rimming, a Horse, and a Faun” by visiting

I immediately found Mr. Mahoney quite endearing and adorable (and those of you that know me, you know I rarely, if ever, refer to another man as “adorable”).  He was funny, and when I learned that he has won awards for his comedy writing, I was not surprised.

Also, there were so many passages that Mr. Mahoney read that came very close to moving me to tears.  And yet, as soon as I began to feel the tears well, he would read something that he had written that was very funny!

Personally, I think I was Sensing how spectacularly loved this man is.  Not only was THE Susie there, but so was his boyfriend/partner, Drew, and one of his best friends (Greg, if I remember correctly).  There was so much Love in that room, that it could not help my Healed Heart and me be moved to tears.

Towards the end of the event, Mr. Mahoney asked if anyone had any questions.

Now, ladies and gentlemen, blog followers and blog readers, Lesbians, my fellow Gay Men, Transgendered folks, Bisexuals, and our straight allies, for many years, I have attended events and/or participated in classes and courses, and when the floor is opened for questions, I AM usually the first one to raise a hand.

When Mr. Mahoney said that if anyone has any questions, I was about to raise my hand, and then I thought, “Well, let me break up the monotony and let someone else raise his or her hand first.”  No one did.  Alas, I was unsuccessful (again) in breaking up that monotony.  I guess I AM more of a “maverick” than I realize (Mr. Mahoney knows exactly what I mean about that!  Ha!)!

So, I raised my hand and asked what advice he would give to a blogger (I managed to refrain from adding “WordPress,” but my fellow WordPress bloggers, you know I meant us!) who wants to become a published author.  He said to keep blogging, build a following, and have a story or high concept in Mind, as publishing houses are not necessarily inclined to read someone’s meanderings.

The only other attendee question that I enjoyed hearing (and that I remembered; I really need to learn shorthand!) Mr. Mahoney answer was the one about which content Drew objected to having included.  Jerry stated that there was nothing that Drew asked be included or omitted.  As if I need to be Re-Minded what a great guy Drew is!

I invite you to purchase your own copy of Mommy Man: How I Went from Mild-Mannered Geek to Gay Superdad, by Jerry Mahoney (Copyright 2014, Taylor Trade Publishing, an Imprint of Rowman & Littlefield, Lanham, Maryland), as well as visit his WordPress blog,

For now, thank you, one and all, for honoring who you are and what you do.9781589799226_p0_v1_s260x420

Some Illumined Insight from Kelvin…

So, there is a social media app that is geared for the Gay Male Bear community called Growlr that I have enjoyed using for almost a year now.

Recently, I saw a wonderful “About” section by a user named Kelvin.  I was so impressed and so moved by what he wrote, I asked his permission to create a blog post about it here, and he graciously agreed.

This is something Kelvin wrote in his journal during the middle of May, 2014.  And here it is only slightly edited; on his Growlr profile, it was written as one long paragraph, but I felt that it would be easier on the blog follower’s or blog reader’s eyes if it was in smaller paragraphs, as opposed to one large one.  Also, I replaced “NJ” with “New Jersey,” and “NYC” with “New York City.”

Here we go…


“I’ve been thinking a lot about the gay community around me lately.

“For a few weekends now, I have gone out for drinks with friends to gay bars in New Jersey and New York City.  And it’s always so interesting to find that everyone shits on the nice guy.  But I don’t think it’s because they are bad people.  I don’t think anybody is “bad.”  It’s just that their eyes are so closed.  It’s because we live in a community where skinny is beautiful at the cost of starving the hungriest parts of your soul. 

“We live in a community where broken hearts are made numb with alcohol and a good long fuck.  Where the suggestion of ‘we should grab dinner or a drink sometime’ is followed up with ‘I don’t date.  I want you to come over tonight.’  We pick a life of homosexuality so that we can show the world how to love unconditionally.  Our brothers before us taught us to love beyond color, and our sisters after taught us to love despite our gender.

“Now, we pick this life to learn to love ‘despite of.’  That my capacity to love was never measured by how big my dick was or counting packs on my abs.  That it was never defined by the blank check waiting to be filled, or the swag of my hat or the bling on my body.

“We forget that our love is only defined by the deepest parts of ourselves that remember how to love.  Instead, we forget to define it by a look, a kiss that lingers so deep, it doesn’t take our breath away, but instead we need a second to get it back from a moment that exists so far from this place we call home.  We forget that loves exists in our crooked smile and in the frequency of our laughs.  We are blind to see the love in our tears and numb to feel the love in our rage.

“But people don’t shit on the nice guy because they are bad people.  They shit on him simply because they can’t see themselves in him.  How lonely it must feel to kiss the broken parts of your self without ever realizing you have spent your entire existence to experience this one, beautiful moment that you just let slip away.

“So clean off your glasses and update the prescription on your contacts.  OPEN your EYES!  Every thing you were ever looking for was only ever just in front of you.  The irony is, we have been taught to always be afraid to see what we might find in the mirror.  That what you see is always just a defect on the production line. 

“But I promise you, that whatever you find…it was never shy from always being beautiful.”


I was quite touched and moved by what Kelvin wrote in his Growlr profile.  It was powerful, and I felt it was worth sharing.  I AM committed to people being empowered and free, and the insights that Kelvin shared from his personal journals certainly give one, especially a Gay Man, much on which to reflect.

Kelvin is a Life Coach, and if you want to know more about him or his professional services, please feel free to visit his Facebook page,, and please let him know that you found out about him via “This Gay Man’s Life…”

Thank you, one and all, for honoring who you are and what you do.94760507-gay-pride

About “Pride Celebrations, Parts I and II…”

Lesbians, my fellow Gay Men, Transgendered folks, Bisexuals, and our straight allies, this post is to inform you that, as I learn about other Pride Celebrations this month and year, June, 2014, I shall add them to the posts entitled “Pride Celebrations, Part I…” and “Pride Celebrations, Part II…”

I recommend you periodically visit both posts, often, as they shall be updated as I find out about additional Pride Celebrations.

Also, since there are other Pride Celebrations that take place in other months (such as July; and yes, that is already a post-in-progress), from now on every Pride Celebration post, shall begin with the words “Pride Celebrations” and conclude with a colon and the month in which said Pride Celebrations are being held.

For example, “Pride Celebrations: July.”

For those of you who have been to any Pride Celebrations, or are going to any, I would love to hear from you, regarding your experiences, positive or negative, what you saw, what you did, who you did (Ha!), etc.

And soon, I shall continue and conclude my series of posts regarding the symbolism–both Sacred and secular–of the colors of the Rainbow Flag.

Thank you, one and all, for honoring who you are and what you do.  And thank you, as always, for honoring who I AM and what I do.rainbowflagNYC

“An Update on the Store and the Bookselling Wars”

Lesbians, my fellow Gay Men, Transgendered folks, Bisexuals, and our straight allies, here is the latest on Giovanni’s Room.  I received this Email this past Friday, June 6, 2014, 4:48PM.

Interestingly enough, it is the shortest update to date.

Here we go…


We are still expecting to know by June 15 if the group considering buying the store is going to do so.  There is yet another possibility of selling the business, but we know very little about these potential buyers.

In case you missed Stephen Colbert’s broadside at Amazon last night, click here   Mr. Attorney General Holder, when do you apply the anti-trust laws?

See you at the Philly Dyke March tomorrow [Saturday, June 7, 2014], 3-6pm, starting at Kahn Park, 11th and Pine, and at the Pride Parade on Sunday [today, Sunday, June 8, 2014].


Ladies and gentlemen, blog followers and readers, may all the Gods keep this store open!

As someone who is not only a fan of independent booksellers, but also the fact that I happen to love Giovanni’s Room (the only remaining LGBT bookstore in this country), as well as the Center City section of Philadelphia, I would LOVE for this store to remain open.  Or, rather, reopen.

Since Giovanni’s Room kept their most recent update short and sweet, I shall keep this post short and sweet, too.

Thank you for honoring who I AM and what I do, and thank you for honoring who I AM and what I do, too.Giovannis+room_31


Pride Celebrations: June, 2014, Part II…

In this post, I happily list all the LGBTQIA Celebrations in other countries for June, 2014:


Sao Paolo, Brazil celebrated their “Gay Pride Sao Paolo” from last Friday, May 30, until this past Tuesday, June 3;

Barcelona, Spain has their “Barcelona Pride” from Friday, June 27, until Sunday, June 29;

Berlin, Germany, celebrates “Berlin: CSD Christopher Street Day” from Thursday, June 19, until Sunday, June 22;

Blackpool, England celebrates “Blackpool Gay Pride” from Saturday, June 14, until Sunday, June 15;

PLEASE NOTE: There are international Pride Celebrations that are listed in June that do not list specific dates.  I used every search engine I could think of, enlisted the assistance of very tech savvy people, even called upon people who relate to those nationalities, but remained unsuccessful in obtaining exact dates for the Pride Celebrations of those areas.  As a result, I have no idea exactly when Bogota, Colombia (“Bogota Colombia Diversa”), Hong Kong, China (“Hong Kong Pride”), and Ibiza, Spain (“Ibiza Gay Pride”) shall have their respective Pride Celebrations.

However, Helsinki, Finland’s “Helsinki Gay Pride” is from Pride Celebration is from Monday, June 23, until Sunday, June 29; and Rome, Italy shall have their “Roma Pride” this Saturday, June 7, as shall Oxford, England regarding their “Oxford Gay Pride.”

Dublin, Ireland celebrates their “Gay Pride Dublin” from next Saturday, June 14, until Sunday, June 29;

Edinburgh, Scotland celebrates “Edinburgh: Pride Scotia” on Saturday, June 21;

Oslo, Norway celebrates “Oslo: Europride 2014” from Friday, June 20, until Sunday, June 29;

Paris, France celebrates “Gay Pride Paris,” and both Sheffield, England celebrates “Sheffield Gay Pride” and Swansea, England celebrates “Swansea Gay Pride” on Saturday, June 28;

Shanghai, China celebrates “Shanghai Pride” from Saturday, June 14, until Sunday, June 22;

Stiges, Spain celebrates “Stiges Gay Pride” from next Thursday, June 12, until Sunday, June 15;

Tel Aviv, Israel celebrates “Tel Aviv Gay Pride” from next Sunday, June 8 until next Friday, June 13.


Again, I AM most thankful to for its invaluable assistance in the creation of this post.

If any of you attend any of these Pride Celebrations, please feel free to share your experiences in the comments.  Also, if there are any Pride Celebrations taking place in this country or others that I may have missed, please feel free to add them in a comment so that those Pride Celebrations can be added to a previously published post to be included.

Thank you, one and all, for honoring who you are and what you do.rainbowsidewalk

Pride Celebrations: June, 2014, Part I…

In many places, both in the United States of America, and in other countries, June is “Gay Pride Month,” or, as I have seen it lately, “LGBTQIA Pride Month.”

However, there are other Pride Events, that occur at other times of the year.  For example, Albuquerque, New Mexico, had their Pride Celebration last Saturday, May 31, 2014.

Here is where one can celebrate Pride in June, 2014:


Birmingham, Alabama began celebrating “Central Alabama Pride” yesterday, Sunday, June 1, until Saturday, June 7, 2014;

San Juan, Puerto Rico, celebrates their “Puerto Rico Pride (or, in Spanish, Orgullo), today, Monday, June 2;

Orlando, Florida celebrates “Gay Days” at Disney World from tomorrow, Tuesday, June 3, until next Monday, June 9.  Also, “One Mighty Weekend” is from Thursday, June 5, until next Sunday, June 8;

Boston Pride is from Friday, June 6, until Monday, June 16, 2014 (exactly two weeks from today; Cole and Hunter, “the “Maverick Men” shall undoubtedly be in full force!!);

Dallas, shall be celebrating “Dallas: Razzle Dazzle” from this Friday, June 6 until next Sunday, June 8; and so shall Des Moines, Iowa with their “Capital City Pride;”

Edmonton, Canada shall be celebrating “Edmonton Pride” from this Friday, June 6, until Sunday, June 15, and Indianapolis has their “Indy Pridefest” beginning on the same date, but theirs concludes next Saturday, June 14;

Los Angeles, and Milwaukee, Wisconsin have their “Los Angeles Pride” and “Milwaukee Pride,” respectively, from this Friday, June 6, until next Sunday, June 8.

Salt Lake City’s “Utah Pride” is from this Thursday, June 5, also until next Sunday, June 8;

Both Washington, D. C., and West Hollywood, California, have their respective Pride Celebrations, “Capital Pride” and “Los Angeles Pride,” from this Friday, June 6, until next Sunday, June 8;

Detroit, Michigan has their “Detroit: Motor City Pride” from this Saturday, June 7, until next Sunday, June 8;

Both El Paso, Texas, and Honolulu, Hawaii have their Pride Celebrations, “El Paso Pride Texas” and “Honolulu Pride Parade,” respectively this Saturday, June 7;

One of my favorite cities on the Planet, Philadelphia, shall have their “Philly Pride” next Sunday, June 8 (no, I shall not be there, but I do look forward to returning to Philadelphia, perhaps after [Goddess Willing] Giovanni’s Room, reopens); Rockland County, New York (specifically, Nyack) shall have their Pride Celebration on Sunday, June 8, too;

Brooklyn (YO!  Brooklyn), Noo Yawk, has their “Brooklyn Pride” from next Monday, June 9, until next Saturday, June 14;

Key West, Florida, has their “Key West Pride” from next Wednesday, June 11, until Sunday, June 15;

Baltimore, is celebrating “Baltimore Pride” from next Friday, June 13, until Monday, June 23, three Mondays from today!;

Bisbee, Arizona celebrates “Bisbee Pride” from next Friday, June 13, until next Sunday, June 15 (one learns a lot being a WordPress blogger; I never knew a municipality called Bisbee even existed until I began writing this post!);

“Nashville Pride” is from next Friday, June 13, until next Saturday, June 14;

Albany, New York (“Albany Capital Pride”), Anchorage, Alaska (“Alaska Pride Festival”), and Fayetteville, Arkansas (NWA [Northwest Arkansas]), and Long Island, New York (“Long Island Pride”) are all being held next Saturday, June 14;

“Pittsburgh Pride” and “Pride Northwest” in Portland, Oregon are both taking place from next Saturday, June 14, until the Sunday after next, June 15;

Sacramento, California (“Sacramento Pride”), Spokane, Washington (“Spokane Pride: Outspokane”), and San Mateo, California (“SMC [San Mateo County] Pride”), are all being held next Saturday, June 14;

Chicago (“Chicago Pride Festival”), Columbus, Ohio (“Stonewall Columbus Pride”), and Louisville, Kentucky (“Kentuckiana Pride Louisville”) all have their Pride Celebrations from Friday, June 20, until Saturday, June 21;

New Orleans has their “New Orleans Pride” from Friday, June 20, until Sunday, June 22, and Houston, Texas has their “Gay Pride Houston” from Friday, June 20, until Sunday, June 29 (things really are bigger in Texas!  Ha!);

Oklahoma City has their “Oklahoma City Pride” from Friday, June 20, until Saturday, June 21, and Olympia, Washington has their “Olympia Capital Pride” from Friday, June 20, until Sunday, June 22;

Toronto’s “Toronto: World Pride 2014” is from Friday, June 20, until Sunday, June 29;

Denver’s “Denver Pridefest” is from Saturday, June 21, until Sunday, June 22;

Omaha, Nebraska’s “Heartland Pride” is from Saturday, June 21, until Saturday, June 28;

Both Salisbury, North Carolina (“Salisbury Pride”), and Syracuse, New York (“Central New York Pride”) have their respective Pride Celebrations on Saturday, June 21;

Huntsville, Alabama has their “Huntsville: Rocket City Pride” on Sunday, June 22;

Augusta, Georgia (“Augusta Pride”), Manhattan, New York City (“New York City Pride”), and St. Petersburg, Florida (“St. Pete Pride”), have their respective Pride Celebrations from Friday, June 27, to Sunday, June 29;

Baton Rouge, Louisiana (“Baton Rouge Pride”), Bend, Oregon (“Central Oregon Pride”), Cleveland, Ohio (“Cleveland Pride”), and Lexington, Kentucky (“Lexington Pride”), all have their respective Pride Celebrations on Saturday, June 28;

Flagstaff, Arizona (“Northern Arizona Pride”), and Minneapolis, Minnesota (“Twin Cities Pride”), celebrate from Saturday, June 28, until Sunday, June 29;

Provincetown, Rhode Island celebrates “Independence Weekend” from Saturday, June 28, until Saturday, July 5;

Both St. Louis, Missouri (“Pride St. Louis”), San Francisco (“San Francisco Pride”), and Seattle, Washington (“Seattle Pride”) celebrate their respective Pride Celebrations from Saturday, June 28, until Sunday, June 29;

Santa Fe, New Mexico (“Santa Fe Pride”), celebrates on Saturday, June 28, and Chicago (“Chicago Pride Parade”), celebrates on Sunday, June 29, 2014.


I AM most thankful to for their extensive assistance in this blog post.  I have already subscribed, and I certainly need to give them a “Pride and Love Offering.”

Before I close, I also wish to announce that I added a page to this blog, “A State of Pride…” which you can read by visiting

Thank you for honoring who you are and what you do.rainbow-flag-meaning-hi