Category: Lesbians

FlameCon2, Part II…

Exactly seven days ago, on Sunday, August 28, 2016, I had the honor and pleasure of attending the second and final day of FlameCon2, which was the second annual Queer Comic Con.

You can read my blog post about the very first FlameCon by visiting:



And so, I was on my way to Manhattan, to go to Brooklyn.  Specifically, the New York Marriott at The Brooklyn Bridge.  In the meantime, in spite of being a fanatic for punctuality, I was late.  Well, I did not need to be there at a certain time, per se, but the hours for the last day were from 11:30AM-4PM, so it was not like I was going to be there for several hours.

Last Saturday night, I began chatting with someone on the Growlr app, and he told me that THE Chris Claremont was going to be part of a panel discussion entitled “PRIDE and the X-Men,” and when I had learned that he wrote Uncanny X-Men for seventeen years, I knew that was a panel discussion to attend.

And I would have, except that I arrived after 2PM (did I mention the panel discussion was from 2-3PM?), and by the time I arrived, the room was closed.

Actually, I do not recall the exact phrasing the volunteer used, but she said that I would be unable to enter; I eventually learned that any additional people in Room B might be a safety hazard.  Now, that I can certainly understand, especially as someone who used to work in supermarkets.

It certainly gave me the opportunity to catch my breath, wipe the sweat from my forehead, and have a light breakfast and certainly sitting down!

After catching my breath, eating, and relaxing, I looked at the Thomson Reuters Convene app, that FlameCon/GeeksOUT! recommended downloading on one’s smartphone (which was a very good recommendation, by the way), and saw a great panel discussion entitled “Agism in the Geekosphere & Fandoms That Span Generations.”






Little did I realize that attending this panel discussion would make the entire con for me!  And I cannot deny, I LOVED the fact that I was first in line to attend this particular panel discussion.

Originally, the panelists consisted of:



Mags Visaggio

Laura Antoniou

Nayland Blake

Matthew Waterhouse

Cecilia Tan



However, Nayland Blake announced early on that Mags Visaggio had an emergency and was unable to be a part of the panel discussion, as originally scheduled.  I must confess, I have not followed up to see if she is OK, but I hope and pray that she is OK.

In the meantime, as much as I enjoyed all the panelists, it was listening to THE Laura Antoniou talk about her growing up, sharing her anecdotes, and her treasures of old ‘zines and scripts that touched my heart and moved me to tears.  What she shared moved me to feeling nostalgic, in spite of the fact that the experiences she shared when she was younger were not experiences that I had experienced when I was younger, but they touched my heart, all the same.

Every panelist, from Nayland Blake, to Laura Antoniou, to Matthew Waterhouse, to THE Cecilia Tan, were a joy.  Truly, I received more than double my money’s worth with that one panel discussion.  I was also happy to discover that all the attendees of this panel discussion received a ten per cent discount on any purchase at the Circlet Press table.  Circlet Press, “Erotica for Geeks” was founded by THE Cecilia Tan.

I must acknowledge that, although I took notes during this panel discussion, as well, I have not looked at them.  Then again, my penmanship when I participate in panel discussions and workshops seems akin to Ancient Sumerian, these days!

I was truly very happy and floating on a cloud peace and light-heartedness after attending this particular panel discussion, and was looking forward to going to the Circlet Press table, and as I was about to leave said table, I had the opportunity to meet and speak personally with THE Laura Antoniou!

Once I finish up some of the books that I AM reading (as well as rereading), I shall begin reading her novel, The Killer Wore Leather.  Yes, I AM very excited to read it.  It has been a while since I have read some good LGBT books; of course, I only read good or very good LGBT books, but I digress!

In closing, here is a video that I made and uploaded a few moments ago, where I show off the programme for FlameCon2:






And I love how in the background you can see THE Terry Blas’s venerated vision of Buffy Summers, and yes, she DOES fight like a girl!

You can also view the Facebook Event page by visiting:

Also, you can learn more about FlameCon by visiting their Website:


And you can learn more about GeeksOUT! by visiting their Website:

Thank you, FlameCon.  Thank you, GeeksOUT!  And good night!



Reflections on Orlando…

Shortly after 2 AM on Sunday, June 12, 2016, a man who was named Omar Mateen unleashed a tirade of bullets in the Pulse Dance Club in Orlando, Florida.  As a result, at least according to various news reports, 49 people were killed, and 53 were injured.

Also, several news sources have been referred to this as the “worst mass shooting in American History.”

Since that time, I have felt a great deal of emotions: anger, sadness, despair, frustration, hope, disgust, and more.  In fact, because of these conflicting emotions, and my professional schedule, it has taken me more than two weeks to write this particular blog post.

I felt sucked in to politics, and those that truly know me know that I AM very anti-politics.

However, I felt led to write something in a brand new notebook I purchased at the Rizzoli Bookstore in Manhattan, NYC.

This is what I wrote on Monday, June 13, 2016, 12:31AM:


“I have come to realize that the massacre/blood bath/tragedy at the Pulse Dance Club in Orlando, Florida is living proof that ‘marriage equality’ is not the cure-all that a lot of my fellow LGBTQIA+ Community members thought it would be.”



I was also led to make a YouTube video about my feelings about the attack, which you can watch by clicking on:





At this point, it has been more than three weeks since the attack, and in many States in the United States, and many countries around the world, June is the premier LGBTQIA+ Pride Month.

Nonetheless, I AM crystal clear that there is more to this story, more to this incident, and more going on, behind the scenes.

Ultimately, now more than ever, anyone who preaches hatred, racism, prejudice, racial profiling, misdirection, incitement, etc., is going to find that their support is being destroyed.

There is no shortage of additional information available regarding this incident.  Which also makes me a bit sad, but I digress.

Now more than ever, ALL the world has seen the price ALL of us pay for bigotry, hatred, prejudice, racial profiling, ignorance, mindlessness, unkindness, insensitivity, indifference, absolutes, blame, “he said/she said/they are,” etc.

I also wish to acknowledge my newest blog follower, “Senna.”  Thank you for who you are and for what you give the world.

Finally, let me also share the following posts from “BosGuy.”  They are:


What LGBTQ hate mail feels like


Love Wins: One Orlando brunch fundraiser

I saw this on Sunday, June 26, 2016, and it truly touched my heart. Thank you, Grace Church Van Horst, in Jersey City, New Jersey.
I saw this on Sunday, June 26, 2016, and it truly touched my heart. Thank you, Grace Church Van Vorst, in Jersey City, New Jersey.
Here is some additional information about Grace Church Van Horst in Jersey City, New Jersey.
Here is some additional information about Grace Church Van Vorst in Jersey City, New Jersey.
It is amazing to me that people in Perth, Australia held a candlelight vigil for those slain in the targeted massacre at the Pulse Dance Club in Orlando, Florida, United States. For more info about the event, you can visit:
It is amazing to me that people in Perth, Australia held a candlelight vigil for those slain in the targeted massacre at the Pulse Dance Club in Orlando, Florida, United States. For more info about the event, you can visit:

NaPoWriMo, Day 8: “Please,” by Sappho…

Lately, figures from the Ancient Greek Cosmology have been making Their Presence known in my life.

And with that, I honorably transcribe this poem from the Divine Daughter of Lesbos, Sappho, entitled “Please.”



Come back to me, Gongyla, here tonight,

You, my rose, with your Lydian lyre.

There hovers forever around you delight:

A beauty desired.


Even your garment plunders my eyes.

I am enchanted: I who once

Complained to the Cyprus-born goddess,

Whom I now beseech


Never to let this lose me grace

But rather bring you back to me:

Amongst all mortal women the one

I most which to see.

–Translated by Paul Roche


For some more of the late and great Sappho’s poetry, feel free to visit:

For now, thank you, one and all, for honoring who you are and what you do.

Good night.

Thanks to for helping me find this image.
Thanks to for helping me find this image.

NaPoWriMo, Day 3: “Movement Song,” by Audre Lorde…

In honor of Day 3 of National Poetry Writing Month (or, NaPoWriMo, for short), here is “Movement Song,” by Audre Lorde.


Movement Song

By Audre Lorde

I have studied the tight curls on the back of your neck
moving away from me
beyond anger or failure
your face in the evening schools of longing
through mornings of wish and ripen
we were always saying goodbye
in the blood in the bone over coffee
before dashing for elevators going
in opposite directions
without goodbyes.
Do not remember me as a bridge nor a roof
as the maker of legends
nor as a trap
door to that world
where black and white clericals
hang on the edge of beauty in five oclock elevators
twitching their shoulders to avoid other flesh
and now
there is someone to speak for them
moving away from me into tomorrows
morning of wish and ripen
your goodbye is a promise of lightning
in the last angels hand
unwelcome and warning
the sands have run out against us
we were rewarded by journeys
away from each other
into desire
into mornings alone
where excuse and endurance mingle
conceiving decision.
Do not remember me
as disaster
nor as the keeper of secrets
I am a fellow rider in the cattle cars
you move slowly out of my bed
saying we cannot waste time
only ourselves.

Audre Lorde, “Movement Song” from From a Land Where Other People Live. Copyright © 1973 by Audre Lorde.

Reprinted with the permission of the Charlotte Sheedy Literary AgencySource: The Collected Poems of Audre Lorde (W. W. Norton and Company Inc., 1997)

Please feel free to visit:
And, when you do, feel free to check out some other beautiful and powerful poems, written by some of the most beloved LGBT poets.
Thank you, one and all, for honoring who you are and what you do.audrelordefromthepoetryfoundationdotorg

Best Gay Cities of 2013

When my time is at a premium, I bookmark Websites to visit at a later time.

As I was going through my bookmarks earlier today, I found a bookmark from  It was entitled “American Airlines Presents Best of GayCities 2013.”

I felt I would share some of those that won a lot of votes.

Given how close I live to NYC, and given how much I love the Five Boroughs, especially Manhattan, I was happy and unsurprised to see that New York won in the following categories: “Nonstop Nightlife (24% of the votes in this particular poll),” “Fashion Capital (26% of the votes),” and “Singles Scene (21% of the votes).”

Paris, France won the “Foodie Paradise” category with 30% of the votes.  And, surprisingly, New York was not a runner-up.


And yes, I checked the runners-up.  New York was not one of them.

Vienna won the “Culture Hub” category, and no, New York was not a runner-up, either.

Now, ladies and gentlemen, Lesbians, Gay Men, Bisexuals and Transgendered people (and yes, those of you who are “Questioning” or “Queer,” as well), there are many places on this Planet that I love.  I have been to some of them and look forward to going to the ones I have yet to visit.

However, as someone who has been to New York City often, and been to every Borough of New York City on several if not many occasions, I can honestly say that there is a lot of places for lovers of food and culture to explore.  So, when I did not see New York City as a runner-up in these categories, I was surprised.  Neither upset, nor angry.  Simply surprised.

Chicago won the “City of the Year” category, with 22% of the votes.

Interestingly enough, I have been interested in visiting Chicago for years.  I remain a fan of the television series ER (sixteen seasons.  YEAH!), and although I  know I shall not encounter County General Hospital if and when I visit, but there is an Energy to Chicago that has been drawing me for years.

About ten years ago, I had an opportunity to visit Chicago to attend a Spiritual and Magickal Conference.  Alas, a bout of pink eye prevented me from going.  Aside from this condition being contagious, I could not even open my left eye (I had the pink eye in my right eye), without experiencing discomfort or, more often than not, sharp pain.

Nonetheless, I invite you to comment on which cities you feel are your favorites for Gay Men, Lesbians, Bisexuals and Transgendered people.

Before I close, I wish to acknowledge my newest blog followers: “GiantGag” and “theeditorsjournal.”  May both of you receive great insight from following “This Gay Man’s Life…”

And for those of you already following and reading “This Gay Man’s Life…” thank you for honoring who you are and what you do.chicago-winner

Dear Heterosexuals…

When I saw this, I knew this would be perfect for a blog post on “This Gay Man’s Life…”

I AM keeping this one short and sweet, today, as the image truly says it all.

Nonetheless, I wish to acknowledge my newest blog followers.  They are: “dimarhoads98,” “Matthew Richards,” and “Roy Henry.”

Thank you, all, so much, for honoring who you are and what you do, and for honoring who I AM and what I do, too.

And to all my blog followers and blog readers, who are already following and reading “This Gay Man’s Life…” I wish you a beautiful day, and a wonderful week.

And, for those of you who have not already checked it out, feel free to visit my main blog, “This Is Who I AM.”  The Website address is

“Acceptance and Equality, not tolerance.”

Again, many thanks.dear heterosexual_1643139355_n

The World Is Definitely Changing…

I rarely watch reality TV, but there are a few shows that I love and adore.

One of them is So You Think You Can Dance?  I love dancing, and I do not dance nearly enough in my life, in the day, during the week, etc.

The other one is American Idol.  I happen to love singing, and in my life I was in two choirs; my high school choir and a nationally known, Manhttan-based singing group.

Currently on American Idol, Season XIII, one of the contestants is openly Lesbian MK Nobilette.

I was especially excited when MK told the panel of judges (Harry Connick, Jr., Jennifer Lopez, and Keith Urban) that she is openly Gay and that she feels the world is changing, and that because of this, the public may be more receptive to an openly Gay contestant appearing on the show.

As soon as she finished saying that, Jennifer Lopez echoed MK’s words, about the world being in the process of changing , and then informed her that she is going to be one of the top 15 girls.  As of this writing, MK Nobilette is also one of the Top Ten Girls in the competition.

Personally, I wish MK Nobilette the very best, and may the Divine Great Mystery move her forward with success.

Before I close, I wish to acknowledge all of my newest blog followers.  They are: “JoshMcEwan,” “maxglitz,” “glutenfreepsd,” “kate caudillo,” “incomeblogger,” and “Mr. Smith.”  Also, I wish to welcome “gangrel_pri,” “cjohn819,” “writer_mike,” “stormstarterzerozero,” and “ray.”

May all of you and yours receive Divine Radiance, Divine Prosperity and Divine Peace from following “This Gay Man’s Life.”

And for those of you who are already following and reading “This Gay Man’s Life…” thank you for honoring who you are and what you do, and for honoring who I AM and what I do.double venus rainbow flag-500x500