Category: Personal Life

FlameCon 2017, Part I…

This was the third year for FlameCon, the premier LGBTQ Comic Con in NYC, taking place in the Borough of Brooklyn in NYC every time.

In 2015, its first year, it was held at the Grand Prospect Hall.  I remember seeing commercials for this place when I was a boy.  And to think that I was actually going to the Grand Prospect Hall!

Keep in mind, when I a boy, I had no idea of the concept of being a Gay Man, or a homosexual, so when I would watch commercials for this place, I always found it fascinating.

Of course, as I grew older, then came out of the closet, it never occurred to me that I would ever go there, as I never considered Gay Men going to straight weddings.  The times they have a-changed!

However, last year and this year, 2016 and 2017, respectively, FlameCon was held at the New York Marriott at the Brooklyn Bridge.  And this year, I would swear there were more attendees than last year.

Personally, although I AM not fond of crowds, I do prefer living and being in a city, and I love going to FlameCon, although what thing I did not love was saying “excuse me” and “pardon me” so many times on the first day, but I got over it.

Now, before I continue, I wish to share something with all of us.

Part of me had considered not going.  Frankly, my professional Psychic Practice has become more involved, and my side position of employment more demanding, and both as of this year.  Also, I have had more professional and personal expenses.

However, I had purchased the tickets (a VIP Package, in fact) about two to three months ago, and I have attended the first two FlameCon events, so attending this year’s FlameCon, also known as FlameCon2017.

And I AM so happy I did!!

Although this post, and its “Part II” shall have links to articles about this year’s FlameCon that features tons of photographs of the cosplayers, I want to focus on one of my personal favorite aspects of FlameCon and that is the panel discussions.

To give the reader a better idea, the first day of FlameCon (also known as FlameCon2017) was Saturday, August 19, 2017, 12-8PM; the second and last day was on Sunday, August 20, 2017, 12-6PM.

On the first day, Saturday, August 19, 2017, the first Panel Discussion I attended was “ComicsVerse Podcast: Celebrating Minority and LGBTQ Superheroes.”

It was a learning experience, especially since I AM still quite a newbie in the world of Queer Comics.

In the world of the Sacred Tarot, I AM a Master Level tour guide, but in the world of Queer Comics, well, they need to create a term for the level of inexperience I have!  Ha!

If memory serves, ComicsVerse has been one of FlameCon’s sponsors since its very first year, 2015.  Feel free to visit their Website, and show them some love:


The second panel discussion I attended was “Buffering the Vampire Slayer Podcast.”  It is hard to believe that yours truly, forgot that this year is the 20th Anniversary of the debut of “Buffy the Vampire Slayer.” Oh, well, I know now!

Here is what was written about this podcast event on the Thomson Reuters app for FlameCon2017:


“Buffering the Vampire Slayer is a podcast where, you guessed it, discussions of Buffy the Vampire Slayer abound!  In addition to their weekly episodic discussions, hosts Jenny Owen Youngs and Kristin Russo (who also happen to be married to each other!) write an original song recapping every episode of the beloved television series!  Join Kristin, Jenny, and friends for a live taping of a very special episode!”


As someone who attended this live podcast taping, and who was immensely thankful to have been able to gain entry (the lines for some of these panel discussions and events can be quite long, and there are safety issues to consider, such as too many people in a room can be a safety hazard, but I digress), it was definitely a very special taping.

I need to listen to it, because there is one section where one could clearly hear me say, “Yes, it’s funny.” We were talking about a First Season episode of “Buffy the Vampire Slayer” in which in one scene, everyone is talking about planning a party and Cordelia says, “I’m the dip girl.”

Kristin Russo said that it really was not that funny; all of us Lovingly disagreed with her, and I distinctly said “Yes, it’s funny” and I think I was loud enough to be recorded, but I shall let you know officially in Part II of this post.

In any event, do visit their Website, and check out the rest of their social media presence by visiting:


And finally, to conclude the evening, all of us who purchased the VIP Package, were entitled to dinner the Hill Country Barbecue restaurant.  It was called Camp Fire; which makes sense, given the first part of this comic convention is FLAME.

We had brisket, collard greens, macaroni and cheese (and in spite of being Mister Literal, I continued calling it macaroni and cheese, although it was made with penne, which is how I make it, but I digress). And if you love margaritas, well, let me simply state I knew that, had I not eaten as much that particular day, I think I would have needed to have a cab take me all the way from the Boerum Hill section of Brooklyn to my home in New Jersey!  Ha!

For dessert, there were some super delicious s’mores cupcakes, and entertainment, which included a sing-along of the Pokemon song (I truly had no idea!), and a few other relevant ditties, including the “Rainbow Connection.”

That song touches my heart so deeply every time I hear it, sing it, etc., I always cry.  I kept channeling my Inner American Idol superstar contestant, by refraining from allowing the song to affect my singing, but I kept sounding very off-key, or “pitchy,”  It really was off-key.  Very.

So, I simply allowed myself to stop singing and cry.  Yes, the song moves me that much.


Before I begin to close and complete this post, I wanted to share with you some of the various articles I found online which showcases one of the more popular aspects of FlameCon: the COSPLAY (and other things, too)!

And here we go…


And now, before I conclude this post, I wish to acknowledge my newest subscribers to this, my personal, LGBTQIA+-oriented WordPress Blog, “This Gay Man’s Life…”  They are: “meganwalt” and “ijustcookedthis.”  Thank you both for celebrating your diversity and your ongoing PRIDE by subscribing to “This Gay Man’s Life…”

And for those of you who already subscribe to “This Gay Man’s Life…” or read without subscribing, continuing shining your Diversity and PRIDEful Light into the world, casting out all that and those who cause all of us harm.

Here I AM, looking super cute, wearing the official FlameCon2017 t-shirt.

Reflections on Orlando…

Shortly after 2 AM on Sunday, June 12, 2016, a man who was named Omar Mateen unleashed a tirade of bullets in the Pulse Dance Club in Orlando, Florida.  As a result, at least according to various news reports, 49 people were killed, and 53 were injured.

Also, several news sources have been referred to this as the “worst mass shooting in American History.”

Since that time, I have felt a great deal of emotions: anger, sadness, despair, frustration, hope, disgust, and more.  In fact, because of these conflicting emotions, and my professional schedule, it has taken me more than two weeks to write this particular blog post.

I felt sucked in to politics, and those that truly know me know that I AM very anti-politics.

However, I felt led to write something in a brand new notebook I purchased at the Rizzoli Bookstore in Manhattan, NYC.

This is what I wrote on Monday, June 13, 2016, 12:31AM:


“I have come to realize that the massacre/blood bath/tragedy at the Pulse Dance Club in Orlando, Florida is living proof that ‘marriage equality’ is not the cure-all that a lot of my fellow LGBTQIA+ Community members thought it would be.”



I was also led to make a YouTube video about my feelings about the attack, which you can watch by clicking on:





At this point, it has been more than three weeks since the attack, and in many States in the United States, and many countries around the world, June is the premier LGBTQIA+ Pride Month.

Nonetheless, I AM crystal clear that there is more to this story, more to this incident, and more going on, behind the scenes.

Ultimately, now more than ever, anyone who preaches hatred, racism, prejudice, racial profiling, misdirection, incitement, etc., is going to find that their support is being destroyed.

There is no shortage of additional information available regarding this incident.  Which also makes me a bit sad, but I digress.

Now more than ever, ALL the world has seen the price ALL of us pay for bigotry, hatred, prejudice, racial profiling, ignorance, mindlessness, unkindness, insensitivity, indifference, absolutes, blame, “he said/she said/they are,” etc.

I also wish to acknowledge my newest blog follower, “Senna.”  Thank you for who you are and for what you give the world.

Finally, let me also share the following posts from “BosGuy.”  They are:


What LGBTQ hate mail feels like


Love Wins: One Orlando brunch fundraiser

I saw this on Sunday, June 26, 2016, and it truly touched my heart. Thank you, Grace Church Van Horst, in Jersey City, New Jersey.
I saw this on Sunday, June 26, 2016, and it truly touched my heart. Thank you, Grace Church Van Vorst, in Jersey City, New Jersey.
Here is some additional information about Grace Church Van Horst in Jersey City, New Jersey.
Here is some additional information about Grace Church Van Vorst in Jersey City, New Jersey.
It is amazing to me that people in Perth, Australia held a candlelight vigil for those slain in the targeted massacre at the Pulse Dance Club in Orlando, Florida, United States. For more info about the event, you can visit:
It is amazing to me that people in Perth, Australia held a candlelight vigil for those slain in the targeted massacre at the Pulse Dance Club in Orlando, Florida, United States. For more info about the event, you can visit:

Back at the Mountain, Part I…

Good morning, my fellow LGBT

people, and our straight allies, and a Happy Thursday to all of you!

Right now, I AM on the patio at Rainbow Mountain Resort, in East Stroudsburg, Pennsylvania, basking in having the patio all to myself.  A little while ago, I saw the sexy pool cleaner getting the pool ready for tomorrow, as well as the weekend’s Memorial Day festivities.

My vacation has been lovely, thus far.  In fact, last night, was “couples night!”  My life partner and I visited one of my clients, and her wife, and we had a lovely dinner that my client cooked.  It was wonderful; which having sampled her cooking in the past, was fantastic.

It felt good to spend time with another couple, for a change of pace.  Altogether, it was  a Lesbian couple, a Gay Male couple, the daughter of the Lesbian couple, a dog, and several cats, not to mention inchworms, trees, rocks, birds, spiders, and plenty of Celestial Beings.  (after all, the Lesbians, their daughter, my life partner and I are also Witches, so plenty of Magick was in attendance, as well).

Today is going to be a fun-filled day, and my life partner and I certainly want to enjoy the rest of the day, and having the place all to ourselves, although some other guests have already begun arriving.  The Mountain’s “Cherry House” has been occupied for the past two days or so.

For those of you who have yet to have the Rainbow Mountain Experience, I cannot over-recommend it.  This is my fifth time, my life partner’s second time, and our first time here for a week.

For more info, you can visit:



In the meantime, you can watch this video that I recorded to accompany this particular blog post.  Enjoy!






Selected Excerpts from “Lavender Reflections…”

This morning, I woke up early, to engage in reading and writing Spiritually Uplifting words.

As I was reading passages from the two “page-a-day” books with which I AM working this year, Affirmations for the Inner Child, by Rokelle Lerner, and Lavender Reflections: Affirmations for Lesbians & Gay Men, by Eleanor Ruth Wagner, photographs by Victor Arimondi, I was Divinely Guided to share some of these passages with all of you.

Here we go…


January 8


The laws of God, the laws of man

He may keep that will and can

Not I: let God and man decree

Laws for themselves and not for me;

And if my ways are not as theirs

Let them mind their own affairs.

Their deeds I judge and much condemn,

Yet when did I make laws for them?

“Last Poems, XII,” from The Collected Poems of A. E. Housman


February 10


My anger is an important part of me.

Anger is a sane response to the reality of my life.  Dealing with the homophobic world, I feel angry.  I get furious at the world that tells me I am bad and sick and defective.  I am enraged when people try to change me or decide for me whether I should be in or out of the closet.  I am angry with myself for not consistently standing up to the world proudly or for not always loving myself just the way I am.

Often I try to hide or deny my feelings.  Today I acknowledge my anger and choose new ways of dealing with it that do not destroy myself or others.  I seek people who can support me in all my emotions and places where I can express hostility safely.  In certain circumstances it is inappropriate or unwise to express my anger, but I need a way to deal with all those angry feelings, and I can structure ways of doing that.

Being angry doesn’t have to mean being out of control.  Sometimes I need to shout my anger, but I can also be angry in a soft voice.  I can find safe physical ways of dealing with strong feelings, and sometimes simply talking or crying helps me work them through.

As I deal with my anger, I am finding there is less of it, and I can live without a constant chip on my shoulder.  I am being healthy in my anger.


March 8

Healing from Abuse

I heal from sexual abuse.

Many people, heterosexual, homosexual and bisexual, male and female, have suffered sexual abuse.  Even if I have not experienced such abuse myself, someone close to me may be a survivor of abuse, and I choose to participate in the collective healing of a sick society that has allowed this violence to occur.

I need to be patient and impatient–letting myself know that the healing will take a long time while working to find the help I need to speed the healing process.  Trusting my inner voice, I do whatever is necessary to take care of myself.  I did not deserve this abuse.  I do deserve to heal.

I realize that my sexual orientation is a positive aspect of my selfhood, not the negative after-effect of past trauma.  I affirm that no one can make me homosexual or heterosexual.  If I am bisexual, my life experiences may affect which gender I choose for my relationships, but when it is a choice, I am in control of that choice.  As I find more joy in my same-sex loving, I refuse to give any perpetrator of evil credit for what is good in my nature.  I am who I am, and I am healing with each new day.


May these Life-Affirming words empower you, heal you, strengthen you.

Thank you for honoring who you are and what you do.9781886360020_p0_v1_s114x166

Catching Up on Updates…

In both my personal and professional lives, not to mention my Spiritual life, I often talk about Gratitude.

I cannot imagine the last time I went an entire day without expressing Gratitude.

As such, I wish to begin this post with expressing Gratitude to all my followers and readers of “This Gay Man’s Life…” In addition, to all of you who have submitted comments, reblogged blog posts, etc.

My Birthday is January 8, and for several years, I celebrate my Birthday all month-long.

Last month, was quite challenging, as there were days that were especially lovely, which were followed by days that were especially challenging.  I would go from having a Happy Birthday day to a crappy birthday day.  It was strange, as I do not recall the last time I had experienced that.

And I must confess, it left me quite fearful.  When I was younger, I had some very unpleasant and unfulfilling birthday experiences, and I certainly do not wish to resurrect such experiences.

Nonetheless, I feel much better this month, and am looking forward to Re-Minding myself that I AM a Radiating Center of Divine Love Healing Energies.

In the meantime, this month I shall be catching up on a lot of blog posts.  And yes, I AM cracking the whip on myself.  FWAHKAHTAH!  Ha!

A true writer writes, no matter what.  And indeed, I want and need to resume being a true writer.

Thank you and know that I AM most thankful for all of you.gratitude

Moving forward…

There has been a lot going on in my life, and a lot of it has been good.

I have been celebrating my Birthday and for many years, I have encouraged clients, students, and friends to celebrate their Birthday all-month-long.

I believe in practicing what I teach, and yes, although my Birthday is January 8, I celebrate my Birthday all-month-long.

However, I must confess that I have been experiencing some degree of ennui, which is ironic considering how busy my Psychic Practice has been, as well as the position of employment that I have come to realize is no longer temporary.

Nonetheless, I look forward to getting back on the blogging wagon and soon.

For now, I wish all of you who follow or read “This Gay Man’s Life…” a lovely evening, a beautiful day and a wonderful weekend, too.movingforward

Creating Holidays…

For a lot of people, the Holidays can be very stressful.

It can be especially challenging for people who have no living blood relations, for people who may be on the “fringes” of society, for people who are introverted, or who have a history of being “loners.”

And, of course, for members of the LGBTQ Communities.

Sometimes it is the Holiday rushing around, the Holiday shopping, the feeling guilty when one may not have the monies to purchase a certain gift item, in spite of it being massively on sale, as well as this feeling, Energetically speaking, of things being so tense and rushed and frenetic.

Nonetheless, if I were to give advice on how to deal with the Holidays, there are a few recommendations I would make:


First, take care of YOU!  Get plenty of sleep, eat the best you can, drink water (and do I even need to list how many sources state that drinking water helps improve one’s Health and Well-Being), and engage in some kind of movement.  Going to the gym, stretching, Yoga, etc.

Second, give yourself permission to acknowledge how you really feel about the Holidays, Holiday sales, etc.  As a professional Psychic, a Witch, and an Energy Healing Practitioner, I AM quite aware of energy, positive or negative.  There is, indeed, a frenetic, rushed energy around this time of the year.  Well, at least in the United States, and given that I live in a Mid-Atlantic State, I AM quite aware of it.

Third, if you talk to someone about your problems, make sure to talk to someone who can actually help you overcome that problem.  I have seen far too many people engage in “venting” or “dumping.”  It may help, but I have yet to see evidence of that, in both my professional Psychic Practice, and in my personal life.

In fact, I once asked a friend, who is also a fellow professional Lightworker, if her “venting” was helping her, and she said that it was not.

If something is not helping you, then why do it?

And, last but certainly not least, give yourself permission to unfriend, block, remove, etc (and give yourself permission to do this any time of the year!).

I think it is safe to say that I have written about Facebook and made it akin to the madness that one sees on YouTube (or, in person, for that matter) like a Wal-Mart store on the Friday after Thanksgiving (and yes, I refuse to call it “Black Friday”).

Nonetheless, when I use Facebook, I use it to announce my WordPress Blog posts, both on my Facebook page/timeline, and in the Facebook groups of which I AM a member.

Yes, I do occasionally play computer games on Facebook, and send messages and the like, comment on videos, etc.

However, professionally speaking, the vast majority of my new and already existing clients, as well as students and friends, who avail themselves of my Psychic Services contact me, via Email or telephone, not Facebook.  Also, I can receive Divine Messages from anything or anyone, and rarely receive them, via Facebook, but I digress.

If someone is no longer making a difference in your life, or contributing to your life in a positive, empowering, Prosperous way, then why keep him or her in your contact list, friend list, life, etc.?!

Finally, give yourself permission to create a Holiday Tradition for yourself, even if you begin by celebrating it by yourself.

It could be anything, regardless of your upbringing regarding religion or Spirituality.  Perhaps you could begin a journal writing practice, or treat yourself to a massage, or do something, no matter how simple it may be, for it can serve as a Re-Minder of your strengths, or, your positive qualities, if you will.


Do I have suggestions?  Yes, but I prefer not to inappropriately influence you with making them.

For now, I wish all of you Happy Holidays, and may the Divine Great Mystery of the Universe surprise you in many lovely, fabulous and PRIDEful ways!holidaycandles

Giving Thanks to NaBloPoMo…

Good evening, everyone.  My name is Robert Alvarez, and I AM many things: a Witch, a Cuban, a Gay Man, a Psychic, a Wisdome Writer, a lover of cheesecake, cats, coffee, and hairy men (and no, not all at the same time; because, well, that is a little too out there even for me!), a bibliophile, and a New Jerseyite.

I enjoyed being a part of National Blog Posting Month (or, NaBloPoMo, for short).  Part of me feels I may have hit a wall, which is why I stopped posting every day on both of my WordPress Blogs as of Friday, November 21, 2014, when I published “NaBloPoMo, Day 21: Remember the Green…”

In addition, I AM also most thankful that my physical, emotional and Spiritual Health and Well-Being were such that I could commit to posting one post each from both of my WordPress Blogs.  At least, for the first twenty-one days of November.

Going forward, I shall continue to spend time on this blog, continue to write posts that affect the LGBTQIA Communities, as well as share more of myself, my essence, as a Gay Man.

In addition, after having a lovely coffee klatch with Kelvin (SEE ), a few days ago, I AM Re-Minded of the importance of keeping a personal journal.  It has been a long time since I have done so.

One of the qualities that I love about myself is that I AM Self-Aware.  My Self-Awareness has made certain choices easier, as well as certain decisions necessary, and has helped me move forward in many areas of my life.

Given the time, (approximately 10:57PM, EST), I AM keeping this short and sweet, but before I close, I wish to acknowledge my newest blog followers.  They are: “shaun890,” “sugagalink,” “envisionfuture,” “Felicity,” “essentialoilmama,” and last but certainly not least, “ivytobin,” which is yet another blog follower who is a published author.

I can honestly say that I AM honored to have all the blog followers I have on both of my WordPress Blogs, but I AM especially honored when a published author follows my blogs.  I find it to be a huge compliment.

To all of you who are my new blog followers, thank you for choosing to follow “This Gay Man’s Life…”  hank you for honoring who you are and what you do, and for sharing your Light, your talents, and your PRIDE!

And to all of you who already follow “This Gay Man’s Life…” thank you, as well, for honoring who you ar and what you do, too.

Lesbians, my fellow Gay Men, Transgendered folks, Bisexuals, and our straight allies, let us remember to be kinder, more accepting, and more Loving to ourselves and to others.  Good night.givingthanks

NoBloPoMo, Day 13: Blood Family and Created Family…

As LGBTQ people, some of us have needed to create our own families.

Some of us created family because our blood relations shunned, rejected, or exiled us.  And some of us, because we never truly felt close to our respective blood relations, no matter how much or how little they loved us, or gave us, or showed us love.

Conversely, some of us LGBTQ people have had great relationships with their blood relations; I no longer envy those people, but do wonder, at times, what they did in their past lives, so that I can do the same things in my current one.

Are you any of you dreading the Holidays, or are you OK with the upcoming Holidays?  And if so, why are you dreading it, or why are you looking forward to them?

Questions to ponder, questions to answer, and I look forward to reading those answers.  You can submit comments, or if you want to keep it really private, you can contact me, via Email, at

Thank you for honoring who you are and what you do, and for honoring who I AM and what I do, too.gaymalefamilylesbianfamily