Category: Personal Life

Reflections on Orlando…

Shortly after 2 AM on Sunday, June 12, 2016, a man who was named Omar Mateen unleashed a tirade of bullets in the Pulse Dance Club in Orlando, Florida.  As a result, at least according to various news reports, 49 people were killed, and 53 were injured.

Also, several news sources have been referred to this as the “worst mass shooting in American History.”

Since that time, I have felt a great deal of emotions: anger, sadness, despair, frustration, hope, disgust, and more.  In fact, because of these conflicting emotions, and my professional schedule, it has taken me more than two weeks to write this particular blog post.

I felt sucked in to politics, and those that truly know me know that I AM very anti-politics.

However, I felt led to write something in a brand new notebook I purchased at the Rizzoli Bookstore in Manhattan, NYC.

This is what I wrote on Monday, June 13, 2016, 12:31AM:


“I have come to realize that the massacre/blood bath/tragedy at the Pulse Dance Club in Orlando, Florida is living proof that ‘marriage equality’ is not the cure-all that a lot of my fellow LGBTQIA+ Community members thought it would be.”



I was also led to make a YouTube video about my feelings about the attack, which you can watch by clicking on:





At this point, it has been more than three weeks since the attack, and in many States in the United States, and many countries around the world, June is the premier LGBTQIA+ Pride Month.

Nonetheless, I AM crystal clear that there is more to this story, more to this incident, and more going on, behind the scenes.

Ultimately, now more than ever, anyone who preaches hatred, racism, prejudice, racial profiling, misdirection, incitement, etc., is going to find that their support is being destroyed.

There is no shortage of additional information available regarding this incident.  Which also makes me a bit sad, but I digress.

Now more than ever, ALL the world has seen the price ALL of us pay for bigotry, hatred, prejudice, racial profiling, ignorance, mindlessness, unkindness, insensitivity, indifference, absolutes, blame, “he said/she said/they are,” etc.

I also wish to acknowledge my newest blog follower, “Senna.”  Thank you for who you are and for what you give the world.

Finally, let me also share the following posts from “BosGuy.”  They are:


What LGBTQ hate mail feels like


Love Wins: One Orlando brunch fundraiser

I saw this on Sunday, June 26, 2016, and it truly touched my heart. Thank you, Grace Church Van Horst, in Jersey City, New Jersey.
I saw this on Sunday, June 26, 2016, and it truly touched my heart. Thank you, Grace Church Van Vorst, in Jersey City, New Jersey.
Here is some additional information about Grace Church Van Horst in Jersey City, New Jersey.
Here is some additional information about Grace Church Van Vorst in Jersey City, New Jersey.
It is amazing to me that people in Perth, Australia held a candlelight vigil for those slain in the targeted massacre at the Pulse Dance Club in Orlando, Florida, United States. For more info about the event, you can visit:
It is amazing to me that people in Perth, Australia held a candlelight vigil for those slain in the targeted massacre at the Pulse Dance Club in Orlando, Florida, United States. For more info about the event, you can visit:

Back at the Mountain, Part I…

Good morning, my fellow LGBT

people, and our straight allies, and a Happy Thursday to all of you!

Right now, I AM on the patio at Rainbow Mountain Resort, in East Stroudsburg, Pennsylvania, basking in having the patio all to myself.  A little while ago, I saw the sexy pool cleaner getting the pool ready for tomorrow, as well as the weekend’s Memorial Day festivities.

My vacation has been lovely, thus far.  In fact, last night, was “couples night!”  My life partner and I visited one of my clients, and her wife, and we had a lovely dinner that my client cooked.  It was wonderful; which having sampled her cooking in the past, was fantastic.

It felt good to spend time with another couple, for a change of pace.  Altogether, it was  a Lesbian couple, a Gay Male couple, the daughter of the Lesbian couple, a dog, and several cats, not to mention inchworms, trees, rocks, birds, spiders, and plenty of Celestial Beings.  (after all, the Lesbians, their daughter, my life partner and I are also Witches, so plenty of Magick was in attendance, as well).

Today is going to be a fun-filled day, and my life partner and I certainly want to enjoy the rest of the day, and having the place all to ourselves, although some other guests have already begun arriving.  The Mountain’s “Cherry House” has been occupied for the past two days or so.

For those of you who have yet to have the Rainbow Mountain Experience, I cannot over-recommend it.  This is my fifth time, my life partner’s second time, and our first time here for a week.

For more info, you can visit:



In the meantime, you can watch this video that I recorded to accompany this particular blog post.  Enjoy!






Selected Excerpts from “Lavender Reflections…”

This morning, I woke up early, to engage in reading and writing Spiritually Uplifting words.

As I was reading passages from the two “page-a-day” books with which I AM working this year, Affirmations for the Inner Child, by Rokelle Lerner, and Lavender Reflections: Affirmations for Lesbians & Gay Men, by Eleanor Ruth Wagner, photographs by Victor Arimondi, I was Divinely Guided to share some of these passages with all of you.

Here we go…


January 8


The laws of God, the laws of man

He may keep that will and can

Not I: let God and man decree

Laws for themselves and not for me;

And if my ways are not as theirs

Let them mind their own affairs.

Their deeds I judge and much condemn,

Yet when did I make laws for them?

“Last Poems, XII,” from The Collected Poems of A. E. Housman


February 10


My anger is an important part of me.

Anger is a sane response to the reality of my life.  Dealing with the homophobic world, I feel angry.  I get furious at the world that tells me I am bad and sick and defective.  I am enraged when people try to change me or decide for me whether I should be in or out of the closet.  I am angry with myself for not consistently standing up to the world proudly or for not always loving myself just the way I am.

Often I try to hide or deny my feelings.  Today I acknowledge my anger and choose new ways of dealing with it that do not destroy myself or others.  I seek people who can support me in all my emotions and places where I can express hostility safely.  In certain circumstances it is inappropriate or unwise to express my anger, but I need a way to deal with all those angry feelings, and I can structure ways of doing that.

Being angry doesn’t have to mean being out of control.  Sometimes I need to shout my anger, but I can also be angry in a soft voice.  I can find safe physical ways of dealing with strong feelings, and sometimes simply talking or crying helps me work them through.

As I deal with my anger, I am finding there is less of it, and I can live without a constant chip on my shoulder.  I am being healthy in my anger.


March 8

Healing from Abuse

I heal from sexual abuse.

Many people, heterosexual, homosexual and bisexual, male and female, have suffered sexual abuse.  Even if I have not experienced such abuse myself, someone close to me may be a survivor of abuse, and I choose to participate in the collective healing of a sick society that has allowed this violence to occur.

I need to be patient and impatient–letting myself know that the healing will take a long time while working to find the help I need to speed the healing process.  Trusting my inner voice, I do whatever is necessary to take care of myself.  I did not deserve this abuse.  I do deserve to heal.

I realize that my sexual orientation is a positive aspect of my selfhood, not the negative after-effect of past trauma.  I affirm that no one can make me homosexual or heterosexual.  If I am bisexual, my life experiences may affect which gender I choose for my relationships, but when it is a choice, I am in control of that choice.  As I find more joy in my same-sex loving, I refuse to give any perpetrator of evil credit for what is good in my nature.  I am who I am, and I am healing with each new day.


May these Life-Affirming words empower you, heal you, strengthen you.

Thank you for honoring who you are and what you do.9781886360020_p0_v1_s114x166

Catching Up on Updates…

In both my personal and professional lives, not to mention my Spiritual life, I often talk about Gratitude.

I cannot imagine the last time I went an entire day without expressing Gratitude.

As such, I wish to begin this post with expressing Gratitude to all my followers and readers of “This Gay Man’s Life…” In addition, to all of you who have submitted comments, reblogged blog posts, etc.

My Birthday is January 8, and for several years, I celebrate my Birthday all month-long.

Last month, was quite challenging, as there were days that were especially lovely, which were followed by days that were especially challenging.  I would go from having a Happy Birthday day to a crappy birthday day.  It was strange, as I do not recall the last time I had experienced that.

And I must confess, it left me quite fearful.  When I was younger, I had some very unpleasant and unfulfilling birthday experiences, and I certainly do not wish to resurrect such experiences.

Nonetheless, I feel much better this month, and am looking forward to Re-Minding myself that I AM a Radiating Center of Divine Love Healing Energies.

In the meantime, this month I shall be catching up on a lot of blog posts.  And yes, I AM cracking the whip on myself.  FWAHKAHTAH!  Ha!

A true writer writes, no matter what.  And indeed, I want and need to resume being a true writer.

Thank you and know that I AM most thankful for all of you.gratitude

Moving forward…

There has been a lot going on in my life, and a lot of it has been good.

I have been celebrating my Birthday and for many years, I have encouraged clients, students, and friends to celebrate their Birthday all-month-long.

I believe in practicing what I teach, and yes, although my Birthday is January 8, I celebrate my Birthday all-month-long.

However, I must confess that I have been experiencing some degree of ennui, which is ironic considering how busy my Psychic Practice has been, as well as the position of employment that I have come to realize is no longer temporary.

Nonetheless, I look forward to getting back on the blogging wagon and soon.

For now, I wish all of you who follow or read “This Gay Man’s Life…” a lovely evening, a beautiful day and a wonderful weekend, too.movingforward

Creating Holidays…

For a lot of people, the Holidays can be very stressful.

It can be especially challenging for people who have no living blood relations, for people who may be on the “fringes” of society, for people who are introverted, or who have a history of being “loners.”

And, of course, for members of the LGBTQ Communities.

Sometimes it is the Holiday rushing around, the Holiday shopping, the feeling guilty when one may not have the monies to purchase a certain gift item, in spite of it being massively on sale, as well as this feeling, Energetically speaking, of things being so tense and rushed and frenetic.

Nonetheless, if I were to give advice on how to deal with the Holidays, there are a few recommendations I would make:


First, take care of YOU!  Get plenty of sleep, eat the best you can, drink water (and do I even need to list how many sources state that drinking water helps improve one’s Health and Well-Being), and engage in some kind of movement.  Going to the gym, stretching, Yoga, etc.

Second, give yourself permission to acknowledge how you really feel about the Holidays, Holiday sales, etc.  As a professional Psychic, a Witch, and an Energy Healing Practitioner, I AM quite aware of energy, positive or negative.  There is, indeed, a frenetic, rushed energy around this time of the year.  Well, at least in the United States, and given that I live in a Mid-Atlantic State, I AM quite aware of it.

Third, if you talk to someone about your problems, make sure to talk to someone who can actually help you overcome that problem.  I have seen far too many people engage in “venting” or “dumping.”  It may help, but I have yet to see evidence of that, in both my professional Psychic Practice, and in my personal life.

In fact, I once asked a friend, who is also a fellow professional Lightworker, if her “venting” was helping her, and she said that it was not.

If something is not helping you, then why do it?

And, last but certainly not least, give yourself permission to unfriend, block, remove, etc (and give yourself permission to do this any time of the year!).

I think it is safe to say that I have written about Facebook and made it akin to the madness that one sees on YouTube (or, in person, for that matter) like a Wal-Mart store on the Friday after Thanksgiving (and yes, I refuse to call it “Black Friday”).

Nonetheless, when I use Facebook, I use it to announce my WordPress Blog posts, both on my Facebook page/timeline, and in the Facebook groups of which I AM a member.

Yes, I do occasionally play computer games on Facebook, and send messages and the like, comment on videos, etc.

However, professionally speaking, the vast majority of my new and already existing clients, as well as students and friends, who avail themselves of my Psychic Services contact me, via Email or telephone, not Facebook.  Also, I can receive Divine Messages from anything or anyone, and rarely receive them, via Facebook, but I digress.

If someone is no longer making a difference in your life, or contributing to your life in a positive, empowering, Prosperous way, then why keep him or her in your contact list, friend list, life, etc.?!

Finally, give yourself permission to create a Holiday Tradition for yourself, even if you begin by celebrating it by yourself.

It could be anything, regardless of your upbringing regarding religion or Spirituality.  Perhaps you could begin a journal writing practice, or treat yourself to a massage, or do something, no matter how simple it may be, for it can serve as a Re-Minder of your strengths, or, your positive qualities, if you will.


Do I have suggestions?  Yes, but I prefer not to inappropriately influence you with making them.

For now, I wish all of you Happy Holidays, and may the Divine Great Mystery of the Universe surprise you in many lovely, fabulous and PRIDEful ways!holidaycandles