I must admit, when I first wrote that question, my first thought was “I don’t know.”
However, over the years, I have learned that when one says “I don’t know” it stops Self-Inquiry.
In my life, I have always had challenges feeling as though I belong.
There are many ways to describe me: Gay Man, writer, Cuban, Capricorn, Psychic, Spiritualist, Witch, but I have not always felt at home or a sense of belonging with other Gay Men, writers, Cubans, Capricorns, Psychics (professional or otherwise), Spiritualists (again, professional or otherwise), and Witches.
The Metaphysician in me would say it is because of my responses to others, and my feelings of others, but as close friends and personal heroes often and Lovingly Re-Mind me, it is not about me.
Some people really are inauthentic, unkind, cruel, false, etc. Unfortunately, many of us think, “Well, we still need to be nice to them.” I finally got over that bullshit!
As corny as it sounds, it is nice to be nice,and over the years, some people have made it crystal clear to me that being nice to them is not in my best interests. Now, if they can leave me alone, even better, but some of them do not, which is why a part of me needs to make it clear that, if they leave me alone, everyone shall be happier, especially them (and me, of course, but I digress).
One thing that being a Gay Man means to me is being a part of a legacy. We are everywhere. There are Gay Men who lives in Europe, Asia, North America, South America, Australia, and Africa. There are Gay Men that are white, black, Latino, Asian, Middle Eastern. There are Gay Men that are Catholics, Jews, Muslims, Witches (NOT warlocks, Witches), and there are Gay Men that live in New York, Kansas, Texas, Arizona, Colorado, and every State of the United States of America.
There are Gay Men who are doctors, attorneys, nurses, orderlies, paralegals, counselors, therapists, Psychics. There are Gay Men who are construction workers, architects, building managers, CEOs, CFOs, and, with few exceptions, the same can be said about Lesbians.
I must admit, the worlds of Bisexuals and Transgendered people are very much a mystery to me, but I would imagine that there are many Bisexuals and Transgendered people who also live in different continents, states, and have various professions.