What Being a Gay Man Means to Me?

I must admit, when I first wrote that question, my first thought was “I don’t know.”

However, over the years, I have learned that when one says “I don’t know” it stops Self-Inquiry.

In my life, I have always had challenges feeling as though I belong.

There are many ways to describe me: Gay Man, writer, Cuban, Capricorn, Psychic, Spiritualist, Witch, but I have not always felt at home or a sense of belonging with other Gay Men, writers, Cubans, Capricorns, Psychics (professional or otherwise), Spiritualists (again, professional or otherwise), and Witches.

The Metaphysician in me would say it is because of my responses to others, and my feelings of others, but as close friends and personal heroes often and Lovingly Re-Mind me, it is not about me.

Some people really are inauthentic, unkind, cruel, false, etc.  Unfortunately, many of us think, “Well, we still need to be nice to them.”  I finally got over that bullshit!

As corny as it sounds, it is nice to be nice,and over the years, some people have made it crystal clear to me that being nice to them is not in my best interests.  Now, if they can leave me alone, even better, but some of them do not, which is why a part of me needs to make it clear that, if they leave me alone, everyone shall be happier, especially them (and me, of course, but I digress).

One thing that being a Gay Man means to me is being a part of a legacy.  We are everywhere.  There are Gay Men who lives in Europe, Asia, North America, South America, Australia, and Africa.  There are Gay Men that are white, black, Latino, Asian, Middle Eastern.  There are Gay Men that are Catholics, Jews, Muslims, Witches (NOT warlocks, Witches), and there are Gay Men that live in New York, Kansas, Texas, Arizona, Colorado, and every State of the United States of America.

There are Gay Men who are doctors, attorneys, nurses, orderlies, paralegals, counselors, therapists, Psychics.  There are Gay Men who are construction workers, architects, building managers, CEOs, CFOs, and, with few exceptions, the same can be said about Lesbians.

I must admit, the worlds of Bisexuals and Transgendered people are very much a mystery to me, but I would imagine that there are many Bisexuals and Transgendered people who also live in different continents, states, and have various professions.

For those of you reading this, thank you.  It may be expanded upon in the future, so you may wish to check back for updates.  Again, thank you.10003928_1388853394672870_1823495823_nu.

10 thoughts on “What Being a Gay Man Means to Me?

  1. Hi! I found your blog through BlogHer’s NaBloPoMo blog roll. I have been scrolling through the amazingly long list of bloggers that are taking part in this, and I was so glad to find yours! Although I have not felt comfortable yet writing about my own sexuality and preferences on my site, you have given me strength, to start thinking about blogging about this important part of what makes me, well me, along with being a mama, Buddhist and new blogger!
    I look forward to reading more of your posts this month!


    1. Thank you, rueann. I love your comment, and I have been enjoying National Blog Posting Month more than any other time in which I have participated in it.

      Also, thank you for the lovely compliment. “This Gay Man’s Life…” is my second WordPress blog, and I have been amazed at how much has been happening with it, during the first few days of NaBloPoMo.

      I AM honored that I have Divinely Inspired you. I look forward seeing what you bring to the mix!

      Stay tuned, and have a beautiful and Divinely Healing day.

      1. Thank you for your lovely comment. I feel bad that it has taken me so long to reply, but I have been fighting worse than usual health problems. I’m doing my best to blog every day- I fail too often at other goals I’ve set. Blogging and sharing my experiences, joys as well as struggles has been a fantastic experience. Unfortunately after I finish a post I go right back to bed which means replying has been put off much too long. Thank you for writing. As a new blogger the words of others like yourself with more experience is amazing! I have been enjoying reading your blog posts very much! Have a wonderful Sunday!


        1. No worries, and you replied at the right time.

          Sorry to hear about your health problems, although I must admit, I love the thought of writing a blog post, then going back to bed.

          Nonetheless, I AM happy that what I write in my blog posts makes a difference for you. There is more to come, so stay tuned!

        1. I promise, I shall.

          However, for the last several months, I spend as little time on Facebook as possible. I have found that spending as little time on Facebook as possible has increased my physical, emotional, and Spiritual Energy levels very much, and I find I AM happier, as well, and my time is much more well-spent, but I digress.

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