Category: LGBT Books

FlameCon 2017, Part I…

This was the third year for FlameCon, the premier LGBTQ Comic Con in NYC, taking place in the Borough of Brooklyn in NYC every time.

In 2015, its first year, it was held at the Grand Prospect Hall.  I remember seeing commercials for this place when I was a boy.  And to think that I was actually going to the Grand Prospect Hall!

Keep in mind, when I a boy, I had no idea of the concept of being a Gay Man, or a homosexual, so when I would watch commercials for this place, I always found it fascinating.

Of course, as I grew older, then came out of the closet, it never occurred to me that I would ever go there, as I never considered Gay Men going to straight weddings.  The times they have a-changed!

However, last year and this year, 2016 and 2017, respectively, FlameCon was held at the New York Marriott at the Brooklyn Bridge.  And this year, I would swear there were more attendees than last year.

Personally, although I AM not fond of crowds, I do prefer living and being in a city, and I love going to FlameCon, although what thing I did not love was saying “excuse me” and “pardon me” so many times on the first day, but I got over it.

Now, before I continue, I wish to share something with all of us.

Part of me had considered not going.  Frankly, my professional Psychic Practice has become more involved, and my side position of employment more demanding, and both as of this year.  Also, I have had more professional and personal expenses.

However, I had purchased the tickets (a VIP Package, in fact) about two to three months ago, and I have attended the first two FlameCon events, so attending this year’s FlameCon, also known as FlameCon2017.

And I AM so happy I did!!

Although this post, and its “Part II” shall have links to articles about this year’s FlameCon that features tons of photographs of the cosplayers, I want to focus on one of my personal favorite aspects of FlameCon and that is the panel discussions.

To give the reader a better idea, the first day of FlameCon (also known as FlameCon2017) was Saturday, August 19, 2017, 12-8PM; the second and last day was on Sunday, August 20, 2017, 12-6PM.

On the first day, Saturday, August 19, 2017, the first Panel Discussion I attended was “ComicsVerse Podcast: Celebrating Minority and LGBTQ Superheroes.”

It was a learning experience, especially since I AM still quite a newbie in the world of Queer Comics.

In the world of the Sacred Tarot, I AM a Master Level tour guide, but in the world of Queer Comics, well, they need to create a term for the level of inexperience I have!  Ha!

If memory serves, ComicsVerse has been one of FlameCon’s sponsors since its very first year, 2015.  Feel free to visit their Website, and show them some love:


The second panel discussion I attended was “Buffering the Vampire Slayer Podcast.”  It is hard to believe that yours truly, forgot that this year is the 20th Anniversary of the debut of “Buffy the Vampire Slayer.” Oh, well, I know now!

Here is what was written about this podcast event on the Thomson Reuters app for FlameCon2017:


“Buffering the Vampire Slayer is a podcast where, you guessed it, discussions of Buffy the Vampire Slayer abound!  In addition to their weekly episodic discussions, hosts Jenny Owen Youngs and Kristin Russo (who also happen to be married to each other!) write an original song recapping every episode of the beloved television series!  Join Kristin, Jenny, and friends for a live taping of a very special episode!”


As someone who attended this live podcast taping, and who was immensely thankful to have been able to gain entry (the lines for some of these panel discussions and events can be quite long, and there are safety issues to consider, such as too many people in a room can be a safety hazard, but I digress), it was definitely a very special taping.

I need to listen to it, because there is one section where one could clearly hear me say, “Yes, it’s funny.” We were talking about a First Season episode of “Buffy the Vampire Slayer” in which in one scene, everyone is talking about planning a party and Cordelia says, “I’m the dip girl.”

Kristin Russo said that it really was not that funny; all of us Lovingly disagreed with her, and I distinctly said “Yes, it’s funny” and I think I was loud enough to be recorded, but I shall let you know officially in Part II of this post.

In any event, do visit their Website, and check out the rest of their social media presence by visiting:


And finally, to conclude the evening, all of us who purchased the VIP Package, were entitled to dinner the Hill Country Barbecue restaurant.  It was called Camp Fire; which makes sense, given the first part of this comic convention is FLAME.

We had brisket, collard greens, macaroni and cheese (and in spite of being Mister Literal, I continued calling it macaroni and cheese, although it was made with penne, which is how I make it, but I digress). And if you love margaritas, well, let me simply state I knew that, had I not eaten as much that particular day, I think I would have needed to have a cab take me all the way from the Boerum Hill section of Brooklyn to my home in New Jersey!  Ha!

For dessert, there were some super delicious s’mores cupcakes, and entertainment, which included a sing-along of the Pokemon song (I truly had no idea!), and a few other relevant ditties, including the “Rainbow Connection.”

That song touches my heart so deeply every time I hear it, sing it, etc., I always cry.  I kept channeling my Inner American Idol superstar contestant, by refraining from allowing the song to affect my singing, but I kept sounding very off-key, or “pitchy,”  It really was off-key.  Very.

So, I simply allowed myself to stop singing and cry.  Yes, the song moves me that much.


Before I begin to close and complete this post, I wanted to share with you some of the various articles I found online which showcases one of the more popular aspects of FlameCon: the COSPLAY (and other things, too)!

And here we go…


And now, before I conclude this post, I wish to acknowledge my newest subscribers to this, my personal, LGBTQIA+-oriented WordPress Blog, “This Gay Man’s Life…”  They are: “meganwalt” and “ijustcookedthis.”  Thank you both for celebrating your diversity and your ongoing PRIDE by subscribing to “This Gay Man’s Life…”

And for those of you who already subscribe to “This Gay Man’s Life…” or read without subscribing, continuing shining your Diversity and PRIDEful Light into the world, casting out all that and those who cause all of us harm.

Here I AM, looking super cute, wearing the official FlameCon2017 t-shirt.

Rainbow Book Fair 2017…

On Saturday, April 29, 2017 (exactly three weeks as of this writing), 12-6 PM, I have the honor and pleasure of attending the Ninth Annual Rainbow Book Fair.

This shall be the second year the Rainbow Book Fair shall take place at John Jay College has been hosting the Rainbow Book Fair since 2015, and shall do so again, in exactly three weeks.

Before that, the Rainbow Book Fair was held at a Holiday Inn, and prior to that, the LGBT Center in Manhattan, NYC.

I had the honor of attending the Rainbow Book Fair during its last year at The Holiday Inn, and have been attending ever since.

Every year there are so many wonderful things to see, and great people to meet at the Rainbow Book Fair, and this year’s Rainbow Book Fair is no exception.

Although I could write more about the Rainbow Book Fair, today, I feel led to keep this post short and sweet.

However, I invite you to visit the Rainbow Book Fair’s own WordPress Blog Site:


Rainbow Book Fair



And feel free to check out their Instagram account as well:


I do not think I need to tell you of the importance of the Rainbow Book Fair for the greater LGBTQIA+ Community.

If you can attend and support this endeavor, then great!  If not, then I invite you to become a Friend or Sponsor of the Rainbow Book Fair.  When you visit their Website, click the tab that reads “Support Us” for more info.

Before I close, let me acknowledge my newest followers to “This Gay Man’s Life…”  They are: “Chuck L,” “recipesbydaniel,” “warrenisaac,” and “amygrif.”

Also, I wish to acknowledge these other followers to “This Gay Man’s Life…”  They are:”missymichaels452,” “DRCBCN08009,” “Jon,” “Man of many thoughts,” “AdultXXPO,” “uchechioma,” “scrappy1205,” “What’s your story?,” “donaldgeorgeherman,” “KRC62,” “reuserecyclerelove,” “Senna,” “Chuck,” and “lesouchef.”

To all of you whom I have acknowledged, thank you for your Love, your Light, and your PRIDE.  May you always be beautiful, powerful, and sacred in all you do, and in all the ways you make a difference in the lives of those you serve.

And to all of you who already follow or read without following “This Gay Man’s Life…” may your Love and Light, bring you and all you serve, or shall begin serving, Empowerment, Freedom, Prosperity, and Peace.

I look forward to seeing you, in exactly three weeks, at the Rainbow Book Fair!!

Since 2015, John Jay College in Manhattan, NYC, has been the physical location of the Rainbow Book Fair.


FlameCon2, Part II…

Exactly seven days ago, on Sunday, August 28, 2016, I had the honor and pleasure of attending the second and final day of FlameCon2, which was the second annual Queer Comic Con.

You can read my blog post about the very first FlameCon by visiting:



And so, I was on my way to Manhattan, to go to Brooklyn.  Specifically, the New York Marriott at The Brooklyn Bridge.  In the meantime, in spite of being a fanatic for punctuality, I was late.  Well, I did not need to be there at a certain time, per se, but the hours for the last day were from 11:30AM-4PM, so it was not like I was going to be there for several hours.

Last Saturday night, I began chatting with someone on the Growlr app, and he told me that THE Chris Claremont was going to be part of a panel discussion entitled “PRIDE and the X-Men,” and when I had learned that he wrote Uncanny X-Men for seventeen years, I knew that was a panel discussion to attend.

And I would have, except that I arrived after 2PM (did I mention the panel discussion was from 2-3PM?), and by the time I arrived, the room was closed.

Actually, I do not recall the exact phrasing the volunteer used, but she said that I would be unable to enter; I eventually learned that any additional people in Room B might be a safety hazard.  Now, that I can certainly understand, especially as someone who used to work in supermarkets.

It certainly gave me the opportunity to catch my breath, wipe the sweat from my forehead, and have a light breakfast and certainly sitting down!

After catching my breath, eating, and relaxing, I looked at the Thomson Reuters Convene app, that FlameCon/GeeksOUT! recommended downloading on one’s smartphone (which was a very good recommendation, by the way), and saw a great panel discussion entitled “Agism in the Geekosphere & Fandoms That Span Generations.”






Little did I realize that attending this panel discussion would make the entire con for me!  And I cannot deny, I LOVED the fact that I was first in line to attend this particular panel discussion.

Originally, the panelists consisted of:



Mags Visaggio

Laura Antoniou

Nayland Blake

Matthew Waterhouse

Cecilia Tan



However, Nayland Blake announced early on that Mags Visaggio had an emergency and was unable to be a part of the panel discussion, as originally scheduled.  I must confess, I have not followed up to see if she is OK, but I hope and pray that she is OK.

In the meantime, as much as I enjoyed all the panelists, it was listening to THE Laura Antoniou talk about her growing up, sharing her anecdotes, and her treasures of old ‘zines and scripts that touched my heart and moved me to tears.  What she shared moved me to feeling nostalgic, in spite of the fact that the experiences she shared when she was younger were not experiences that I had experienced when I was younger, but they touched my heart, all the same.

Every panelist, from Nayland Blake, to Laura Antoniou, to Matthew Waterhouse, to THE Cecilia Tan, were a joy.  Truly, I received more than double my money’s worth with that one panel discussion.  I was also happy to discover that all the attendees of this panel discussion received a ten per cent discount on any purchase at the Circlet Press table.  Circlet Press, “Erotica for Geeks” was founded by THE Cecilia Tan.

I must acknowledge that, although I took notes during this panel discussion, as well, I have not looked at them.  Then again, my penmanship when I participate in panel discussions and workshops seems akin to Ancient Sumerian, these days!

I was truly very happy and floating on a cloud peace and light-heartedness after attending this particular panel discussion, and was looking forward to going to the Circlet Press table, and as I was about to leave said table, I had the opportunity to meet and speak personally with THE Laura Antoniou!

Once I finish up some of the books that I AM reading (as well as rereading), I shall begin reading her novel, The Killer Wore Leather.  Yes, I AM very excited to read it.  It has been a while since I have read some good LGBT books; of course, I only read good or very good LGBT books, but I digress!

In closing, here is a video that I made and uploaded a few moments ago, where I show off the programme for FlameCon2:






And I love how in the background you can see THE Terry Blas’s venerated vision of Buffy Summers, and yes, she DOES fight like a girl!

You can also view the Facebook Event page by visiting:

Also, you can learn more about FlameCon by visiting their Website:


And you can learn more about GeeksOUT! by visiting their Website:

Thank you, FlameCon.  Thank you, GeeksOUT!  And good night!



FlameCon2, Part I…

Exactly seven days ago, on Saturday, August 20, 2016, I had the opportunity to attend the first day of the second annual FlameCon, the NYC area’s first LGBT comic con.

After finding out about the very first FlameCon, I knew that I would be attending FlameCon2.

For those of you who may have missed it previously, you can click here:


to read about my experience at the very first FlameCon.

This year’s FlameCon (or, FlameCon2, as the case may be) was not held at The Grand Prospect Hall in Brooklyn, but was held at the Brooklyn.

However, it was still held in the Beautiful Borough of Brooklyn, NYC.  Specifically, the New York Marriott at The Brooklyn Bridge.

Once again, as I have been stating lately, especially online, Brooklyn is doing a very good job of taking very good care of me.

When I first became a professional Psychic, Manhattan and Queens were the NYC Boroughs treating me very well, but especially since last year, Brooklyn has been doing a better (and more frequently!) job of taking good care of “Robert Alvarez, the Psychic Witch” than Manhattan and Queens, COMBINED!

The first day of FlameCon2 was last Saturday, August 20, 2016, and was from 1-7PM.  I must acknowledge that I was already looking forward to purchasing comic books, graphic novels, original art work, and some other fun stuff, so I went right into the Main Ballroom for a bit of a shopping trip.

In fact, it soon became apparent that I needed a big shopping bag.  I was walking by one of the tables, specifically, the one for Prism Comics, and found a big, purple tote bag with the words “homo superior” written on it.

It also reads, “A nonprofit organization supporting lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender comics, creators and readers.”  That enormous tote bag helped me enormously.

For more info about Prism Comics, you can visit their Website:




I went on to go to a few other tables and buy some more things, mainly books (of course!), but I also wanted to attend at least one of the panel discussions, and I did!

I decided to attend “Breaking the Mold: Diversity in Comics” which was held from 4-5PM in Room B.

A few moments ago, I briefly read (or, rather, attempted to read) the notes I took during that panel discussion.  I AM Re-Minded that I truly would benefit from learning shorthand.

In the meantime, let me list the individuals who were a part of the panel:


Amy Reeder

Sophie Campbell

Heather Hogan

Terry Blas

Steve Orlando

Greg Pak


Heather Hogan moderated the panel discussion, and she did a lovely job.  I must confess, I knew very little about Ms. Hogan, but after spending some time devouring her Tumblr page, I feel like nominating her for President of the United States (can I do that?  Please?!).

I enjoyed all the panelists, but shall not deny that I felt a greater affinity for two of them.  First, Sophie Campbell, a comic writer and artist known for her indie comics Wet Moon and Shadoweyes, as well as the artist for a new Jem and the Holograms Series.

When Ms. Campbell said that she was in a grouchy mood, I could not help but feel this amazing affinity with her.  Granted, I was in a great mood, and was so happy to attend that panel discussion (although I would have loved to have sat in a chair, as opposed to standing, but I digress), and I know what it is like to feel grouchy!

And then, Mr. Terry Blas.  When he mentioned that he is half-Mexican, and was a Mormon from Boise, Idaho, I was like, “WHAT?!”

Of course, once he mentioned how much he enjoyed watching the complete series of Buffy the Vampire Slayer after he was no longer a Mormon, well, I felt as though I was looking at yet another brother from yet another mother.

It was a very informative and insightful panel discussion, and yes, I was able to have a seat, about a minute before the conclusion of this panel discussion.

After the panel discussion, I was certainly going to Mr. Blas’s table, and when I arrived (surprise, surprise!) there were several people there, and I must admit, I was truly digging watching the others talk to him, interact with him, ask him questions, buy his publications and art, etc.

Little did I know that I was experiencing a live, somewhat Psychic form of “foreshadowing.”

After about seven or eight people talked to Mr. Blas, made purchases and whatnot, he started greeting someone, and I had no idea that he was talking to ME!  And yes, I realized this after I started looking around to see to whom he was speaking; when the people I saw around me looked at me, I quickly realized that Terry Blas was talking to ME!

Being Cuban, I was able to have a great conversation about being Latino, growing up Latino, and of course, I could get away with telling him to take another bite of his sandwich!  People gotta eat, you know.

I enjoyed our Latino-themed bochinche and then purchased several items.  And, of course, he autographed all of them.  Thank you, again, Terry Blas!

There is more, but I shall leave the rest for tomorrow, Sunday, August 28, 2016, when I write and publish “FlameCon2, Part 2…”

But in the meantime,feel free to visit the following Websites:




In the meantime, thank you, all for all you do for so many.  I look forward to reading and replying to your comments on this post.

Thank you, and good night!

The "power purple" homo superior tote bag from Prism Comics. They also had a golden yellow and a blazing pink, as well.
The “power purple” homo superior tote bag from Prism Comics. They also had a golden yellow and a blazing pink, as well.


An Update on a Previously Scheduled Post…

Previously, I had written a post in which I stated that I wanted to create a blog post featuring the titles of autographed books that I have.  That is, to say, listing the books that I own autographed by the authors who wrote them.

However, the more I thought about it, the more I realized that it might be better simply to create a page for it.  Besides, “This Gay Man’s Life…” needs additional pages.

Appropriately, the page shall be entitled “Autographed Books,” and shall become an ongoing page.

For example, exactly seven days ago, on Wednesday, August 5, 2015, I returned to the Bureau (also known as the Bureau of General Services–Queer Division) to attend an event featuring Richard Stevenson (author or the “Donald Strachey Mystery” Series) and Mark Zubro (author of the “Mike King Mystery” Series, as well as the “Alien Danger Series”).

Now, if the forthcoming “Autographed Books” page existed before last Wednesday, August 5, 2015, then I would have added the books I purchased written by Mr. Stevenson and Mr. Zubro to said page.

Given my schedule for the rest of the year, my intention is to have this new page up before Wednesday, September 30, 2015, if not sooner.

Nonetheless, as soon as it is up, I shall happily let all of you know.

For now, thank you for honoring who you are and what you do, and for letting your Gay Light SHINE!action-list-photo

Bureau of General Services–Queer Division…

In the last few months, I have written blog posts on “This Gay Man’s Life…” about events that I have attended at the Bureau of General Services–Queer Division (or, the Bureau, for short).  I have stated in said blog posts that I need to write an actual blog post about the Bureau.

After attending a recent (as well as lovely, or rather, another lovely event) at the Bureau, not to mention telling both of its co-founders, Donnie Jochum and Greg Newton, how much I love their space (very much, in fact!) and then mentioning this WordPress Blog, I knew the time had come for me to finally sit my ass down and write this blog post.

And yes, my beautiful followers and readers, you can say it (or, in this case, write it).  In fact, I shall happily start you off: “Robert, it is about FUCKING TIME you wrote a blog post about the Bureau!”

So here it is.

The Bureau brings back a Queer bookstore, art and cultural space to Manhattan, NYC.

Those of us who live in or near NYC and are at least twenty-five years of age may recall that Manhattan had two LGBTQ bookstores: A Different Light and the Oscar Wilde Memorial Bookshop.  As you also know, they closed up their respective shops many years ago.

The Bureau was originally located in the Strange Loop Gallery, located on Orchard Street, in the Lower East Side section of Manhattan, NYC from November, 2012, until August, 2013.  From there, it moved to Hester Street, also in the Lower East Side, and was there from September, 2013, until September, 2014.

I vaguely recall when it was located at Strange Loop Gallery, but was very happy that I discovered it in the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, & Transgender Community Center, located on West 13th Street in the Greenwich Village section of Manhattan.

Although I AM a happy Gay Man, I was happy to have attended a Bisexual Book Club meeting, as my very first Bureau experience.  In addition, I happen to have a dear friend who is a fellow professional Lightworker (specifically, an Energy Healing Practitioner) and who is also Bisexual, and he accompanied me to the book club meeting.

Frankly, I was happy to introduce someone else to the Bureau, so soon after learning about its existence.

Since then, I have been to about four or five other events at the Bureau, and looking forward to attending others.  By the way, did you know, the Bureau hosted 171 events in 2014?

For more information about the Bureau of General Services–Queer Division, as well as upcoming events, offering to volunteer, or arranging to make donations (because really, Manhattan has already had two queer bookstores close, having another one would simply not do!), you can visit their Website:


I AM most thankful to both Donny and Greg for co-founding the Bureau, and for all they do there, and make no mistake, they do a lot!

Before I close, I wish to acknowledge my newest blog follower, “thescalesofapisces.”  Thank you for honoring who you are and what you do.  May you receive great information and great PRIDE from following “This Gay Man’s Life…”

And to those of you already following or reading “This Gay Man’s Life…” thank you for honoring who you are and what you do, and for honoring who I AM and what I do, too.BGSQDlogo


Most of you know that I book up super fast.

Between a professional Psychic Practice, and a side position of employment that is more full-time than part-time, especially since September, 2014, advance notice is truly a great friend of mine.

When someone tells me about something taking place within a week of the notice, the chances of me attending are slim to none, but when I find out about something happening at least two months from the time I find out about it, the chances of me attending are much greater.

Indeed, it was approximately two months ago that I found out about FlameCon, NYC’s very first Queer Comic Convention, and I was so happy to learn about it.

I must confess, that when it comes to comic books, the only one that I ever read faithfully was Darkwing, which I enjoyed very much, especially since the lead character discovered an Ancient Egyptian artifact that imbued him with super powers.

Nonetheless, I was overjoyed to have had the opportunity to attend FlameCon.

Interestingly enough, I had the opportunity to go to the Prospect Avenue in Brooklyn this past Thursday, June 11, for a different event and reason, which certainly helped me to find Grand Prospect Hall so I could attend this event.

I love that a nationally registered historic place (yes, Grand Prospect Hall is a historic monument, another reason why Brooklyn is badass!), was the site of the very first FlameCon.

Even before I arrived, I could see people who either were going to or coming from Grand Prospect Hall.  The various super hero logo t-shirts, not to mention various people beautifully and wonderfully engaged in cosplay.

The volunteers were super nice and helpful, and they did a great job of taking care of everyone, including me.

Now, to the juicy stuff!

When I entered the Sun Room, I soon encountered the lovely Tere Michaels, author of, among many others novels, The Vigilante: Book One: Who Knows the Storm.  Now, when I first encountered her, I was about to ask her how much a book entitled Dreams of Fire and Gods: Gods, by James Erich was.

However, she totally surprised me by informing me that, if I sign up for their Email list, I can have any book on that side of the table, FREE!  Truly, arm-twisting was wholly unnecessary!!

Yes, I signed up (after placing that book in my bag), and then I met Jeff, the wonderful husband of the wonderful author known as Damon Suede.

First of all, Jeff is not only beyond badass, but super sweet.  At one point, he asked me if I simply wanted to browse, of if I wanted to hear the pitch.  Frankly, I wanted to hear the pitch, because I really did feel like a tourist all over again (there must be something about that section of Brooklyn that turns me into a tourist!).

I loved his pitch, and wound up purchasing the aforementioned The Vigilante: Book One: Who knows the Storm, by Tere Michaels, then purchased Hot Head, by Damon Suede (which, Jeff, verbally applauded; I mean, really, between the delicious-looking, half-naked studs depicted on the cover of the book, the title (REALLY!), and, after Jeff told me the story behind Mr. Suede’s Bad Idea, how could I not buy it, too?

So, I purchased the three books, which of course, I had autographed, and what wondrous autographs, indeed!

Then, Jeff gave me a pair of purple sunglasses with the Dreamspinner Press logo on one of the arms, then a “bad idea” stick pin.

Of course, Jeff flustered me because he took one out of the box, leaned forward and said, “How would you like a bad idea?”  Oh, my Gods!  I was a-flutter the way he said it!

So much so, that my usual dominant nature was temporarily suspended and I told him to stick it wherever he wanted!

Really, he said it so seductively, that I was quite flustered.  It felt good to be Re-Minded of manly wiles!

After that, I walked around to the other side of the Sun Deck and saw THE Tom Cardamone.  I first met him back in 2013 (you can read about that experience by visiting ), and saw his book, The Lavender Menace, which he not only edited but also features one of his stories.  You know I cannot wait to read all of them!

I also had the lovely pleasure of meeting Jezza Smilez, who created Nathan and the Adonai.  The artist is even more gorgeous than the men he draws.

All I can say is: HOT DAMN!

Then, I walked into The Salon, and saw Greg Fox, the super cool creator of THE Kyle’s Bed & Breakfast.  I first discovered this series, several years ago, during one of my first visits to Giovanni’s Room, and I love the series.  No overt nudity, which I can enjoy, and a culturally diverse cast of sexy men, which proves that men come in many different beautiful shapes, sizes, and colors!

I must confess, although I have owned the first Kyle’s Bed & Breakfast book for years, I had no plans to buy anything, but between some great chats, and some star-strucked behavior on my part (which, if Mr. Fox is reading this, I hope and pray I did make you feel uncomfortable), I decided to purchase Kyle’s B & B Presents: The Pin-Ups.

Again, all I can say is: HOT DAMN!!

Alas, by the time I saw C. Edwards, author of both Abel Boddy and 12′ Roommate (which has been designated as NSFW!! [Not Safe For Work] and I have no doubt that designation is quite correct!), I was running low on funds.  Good thing I had made sure to set aside the bulk of my monies and leave those at home, otherwise, well, I might have been carrying a sandwhich board sign that reads “WILL GIVE READINGS FOR FOOD.”

And I almost forgot: I purchased a copy of Cretian Cow, by THE Gengoroh Tagame.  I had the honor and pleasure of reconnecting with two people who work with THE Jiraiya.  I had the honor and pleasure of meeting both of them a few months ago, when I met THE Jiraiya.  Alas, no, I did not write a blog post about it.

If I allowed other men to spank me, I think there would be a line of men wanting to spank me, and hard!

I wanted to take a short break, so I took the Otis French birdcage elevator to the Balcony and sat to do some people watching.  Which I enjoyed very much.  Half-naked men, especially fellow hairy men who were in full force today!

If you have the opportunity to go to FlameCon, next year, I highly recommend it.

You can visit

For more info.

Thank you, one and all, for honoring who you are and what you do.  And good night!flameconlogo


7th Annual New York Rainbow Book Fair…

Yesterday, Saturday, April 18, 2015, I had the opportunity, honor and pleasure of attending the 7th Annual New York Rainbow Fair, which is touted as “The Premier LGBT Book Event in the U. S.”

I was in sheer heaven!  Remember, I AM a certified bibliophile, and when I look at some of these photographs on the Internet showcasing some of the most GORGEOUS Libraries on the Planet, I experience something quite akin to an orgasm!

As most of you know, I book up very fast.  In previous years, I would find out about this event either a few weeks after it took place, and in one case, a few months.

Fortunately for me, I found out about this event back in March, a full month or so before the Fair took place.  I was excited, and I was ready.

The Rainbow Book Fair was from 12-6PM, however, I was Divinely Guided to wait until after my local postal carrier did his or her rounds for the day.  After I retrieved my regular mail (or, to use the phrase of the day,”surface mail”) for the day, I was off to Manhattan.

I wanted to walk up from Port Authority, and I was feeling good, listening to Chaka Khan on my smartphone (thank you, Spotify!), and feeling good.  I was wearing a new outfit and showing off a bit of tummy!

But you do not want to hear about that (or, maybe you do!).  Regardless, I was on my way to the Holiday Inn Midtown where the Rainbow Book Fair was held.

Now, as I have mentioned in previous posts, as well as offline, I happen to love books, and were it not for time and money, I have no doubt I would have needed to purchase some luggage, or even hired a personal assistant to assist me with my purchases!

I had arrived at approximately 2:30PM, and was delightfully shocked that the admission price was $3.00.  That is how much I pay to go from where I live into Manhattan.  In my Mind I thought, “That’s it?!”  Indeed, I shall happily pay $3.00 to walk in the door and buy books!

I was pleasantly surprised to see that the volunteer behind the table was someone with whom I have engaged in social activities at both the Gay Community Center of Manhattan, as well as the Queens Pride House in the Jackson Heights section of Queens, NYC.

I received a program, a sticker (which fell off not too long after my arrival; next time I shall put it on my face and see if it stays there!), and a copy of the Gotham Cafe menu (no, I did not eat there, but I have a great reason to return).

Then, I walked around, and found a table for the Bureau of General Services-Queer Division (and yes, I still need to write that blog post about them!).

From there, I walked to the table for Lethe Press.  Now, as many of you know, I AM a big fan of the Marco Fontana Mystery Series written by THE Joseph R. G. DeMarco, whose books are published by Lethe Press, so you know I had to go to that table.

I do not recall the names on the sign, but neither author was there.  However, Mr. Jonathan Harper was, whose Energy is lovely, and who is quite easy on the eyes!

I must confess, when I first walked up to him, I thought he worked for Lethe Press, as in, he was an employee, but I was happy to learn that he was selling copies of his debut collection of short stories, Daydreamers.  It has been a while since I have read a collection of short stories, so I AM looking forward to this.

After this, I met Chris who was representing La Casa Azul (which is Spanish for “The Blue House”), which is East Harlem, NYC’s, local, independent bookstore.  You know I love my Independent Booksellers!  And yes, I AM already planning a trip, and soon!

From there, I walked over to the table featuring the works of Rhys Ethan, “Author-Actor-Crazy Person.”  Mr. Ethan is yet another lovely man with lovely Energy and quite easy on the eyes!  We had a great conversation about Spirituality, and although I did not purchase any of his books, I did purchase this pin he made.  It consists of a big safety-pin, pink and green ribbons (you know I love my Heart Chakra colors!), and two dangling spheres, ocean blue on one side, rich pink on the other, and above each sphere, angel wings.  And for a dollar each, how could I not?!

Then, I made my way to the table featuring Stephen Morris, author of the Come Hell or High Water Trilogy of novels.  Clearly, my Witch Powers were directing me to this table, because this series is too good not to read!

The first novel, subtitled “Wellspring,” begins in Prague in 1356, and then flashes forward to Prague, Spring, 2002.

If I went any further, this post would be about this trilogy of novels, as opposed to the 7th Annual New York Rainbow Book Fair.

And then, my last stop (at the time, anyway) was to the table manned by THE Perry Brass.  I had the honor and pleasure of meeting him previously, during an in-person meeting of Gay Men of Wisdom, founded the wonderful Ray Rigoglioso, author of Gay Men and the New Way Forward.  And yes, I surprised Ray, once more, and the manner in which I surprised him surprised me, too!!

Perry Brass is just as lovely as ever.  Friendly, eloquent, and engaging.  I happily discovered that he had written a sequel to his book The Manly Art of Seduction: How to Meet, Talk to, and Become Intimate with Anyone.  The sequel is entitled The Manly Pursuit of Desire and Love: Your Guide to Life, Happiness, and Emotional and Sexual Fulfillment in a Closed-Down World.  As soon as I heard that, it was an instant purchase!

And then, I discovered that he was also selling back copies of his previous works at what I would call a Divine Discount.  I was Divinely Guided (appropriately enough) to purchase his novel The Substance of God.

Well, after all that, I wanted to see if I could meet a particular published author.  No, I shall not state his name, but I had a lovely surprise waiting for me.

Going into the room where I thought I would meet this author, I arrived a few minutes before the start of a panel discussion: “In the Beginning,” LGBT Jewish Writers on Culture, Heritage, and Queer Family Ties.

Now, I have always felt drawn to Jewish Culture, and there was a time, when I was younger, that I seriously considered converting to Judaism.  Indeed, had I done so, I would have gone from being a Jew to being a Jewitch, but I digress.

The Panel was moderated by THE Perry Brass, and featured Michael Broder, his husband, Jason Schneiderman, Donna Minkowitz, Ms. D. L. King, and Martha Shelley, whose Energy I loved with each subsequent eloquent word.

It was a lively, fun and mentally stimulating discussion, and my ears certainly perked up when there was the topic of Paganism and Judaism!

And yes, afterward, my friend and I stopped in a cafe, where I had a coffee and a hamantaschen,also known as hamantashen or hamentaschen, and before taking my first bite, I gave Gratitude and Praise to the Queen of Heaven!

I highly recommend you visit the following Websites:

(WordPress Blog.  YES!)

(the Website of Mr. Jonathan Harper)

(The official Website of La Casa Azul, East Harlem’s local, independent bookstore)

(the official Website of the “Author-Actor-Crazy Person” Mr. Rhys Ethan)

(The Website for Mr. Stephen Morris, author of this Trilogy of novels)

(The official Website of THE Perry Brass)


And there you have it!

Lesbians, my fellow Gay Men, Bisexuals, Transgenders, and our straight allies, as well as my blog followers and blog readers.  Thank you for honoring who you are and what you do, and for honoring who I AM and what I do, too.

I wish you the Peace, Health, and Plenty of this Day.rbf7_masthead_web

Book Review: “Lavender Reflections…”

Although I rarely make New Year resolutions, I did promise myself that in 2015, “The Year of Taking it to the Next Level,” I would begin working with a beautiful book that I have owned for several years.

Over the years, I have purchased many books at Giovanni’s Room (which, as many of you know, is now known as Philly AIDS Thrift at Giovanni’s Room).

One of my favorite book purchases is Lavender Reflections: Affirmations for Lesbians & Gay Men, by Eleanor Ruth Wagner, photographs by Victor Arimondi (Copyright 1995, Alamo Square Press, San Francisco, California).

It is one of those books that features every date of the calendar year (alas, it excludes February 29, but I digress).

Each day features an Affirmation, or Treatment, to use Louise L. Hay’s term, or a quotation from a well-known Lesbian or Gay Man of past or present.


For example, this is the entry for today (Sunday), January 11, with the subject “Beauty in Loving:”

The Affirmative Statement begins with “In the beauty of others’ bodies, I see my own.”  And then it continues with:

“Beautiful people, beautiful bodies.  I am one with my gender as I appreciate the loveliness of all of us.”


Although the book was written for Lesbians and Gay Men, the Affirmations could be adapted for Bisexuals and Transgendered people, too.

The book is a wonderful way to set intentions on how to be a personally empowered and Spiritually Uplifted member of the LGBT Communities, as well as how to move forward in healing your past.

Based on my visits to both and (an eBay company), it looks like this book is no longer in print, but you can find copies for purchase at both Websites.

Before I close, I wish to acknowledge my newest blog follower, “dcpassion2009.”  May you receive great insight, great love, and great PRIDE from following “This Gay Man’s Life…”

And for those of you already following or reading “This Gay Man’s Life…” thank you for honoring who you are and what you do, and for honoring who I AM and what I do, too.lavenderreflections



Joseph R. G. DeMarco at Philly AIDS Thrift at Giovanni’s Room, Part II…

Between the publishing of the “Part I” of this post, and this “Part II” post, I have come to the conclusion that I need to begin and sustain writing my notes for blog posts with all capital letters when taking notes, if for no other reason, because this is the second time I have taken notes to be used for blog posts, and I can only read fifty per cent of said notes.

Indeed, looking at the notes I took last Tuesday, December 2, 2014, while attending Mr. DeMarco’s book reading event, and looking at said notes a few moments ago, I can barely read what I wrote.

Nonetheless, I understood enough to be able to conclude this two part blog post regarding Mr. DeMarco’s book readingn event at Philly AIDS Thrift at Giovanni’s Room last Tuesday, December 2, 2014, 6-8PM.

One of my favorite portions of a book reading event, is when attendees have the opportunity to ask the authors questions.

One of the questions Mr. DeMarco was asked was which authors he reads.  He began his response with saying that he reads authors many of us have never heard of before.  One of those authors is named Len Deighton, who is the author of, among others, SS-GB, An Expensive Place to Die, and The IPCRESS File.

And yes, I can honestly say that I had never heard of Mr. Len Deighton before.

Mr. DeMarco also mentioned Lee Child, who is the author of, among others, the “Jack Reacher Series” of thrillers.  Now, Mr. Lee Child, I had heard of before, as well as having read a few of his novels, too.

I also noticed a few notables in the audience.  One of them is Mr. Ed Hermance, who is the former owner of Giovanni’s Room.  In fact, at one point, I heard a man asking Mr. DeMarco a question, and I remembered thinking, “I know that voice.”  I turned around, and lo and behold!  Mr. Ed Hermance!

Another attendee commented on how much he loves the fact that Mr. DeMarco uses names of actual streets found in Center City.

And for those of you who have not been to the Center City section of Philadelphia, Pennsylvania (and there is a reason why I AM including the name of the state, which I shall state in the next paragraph), there is, indeed, a Camac Street, as in Murder on Camac, a Pine Street, as in A Body on Pine. 

Then again, those of us that have been to Giovanni’s Room, now known as Philly AIDS Thrift at Giovanni’s Room, we know that it is located at the corner of South 12th and Pine Streets, but I digress.

Also, there is a Latimer Street, as in Crimes on Latimer: From the Early Cases of Marco Fontana, and a Delancey Street (as well as a Delancey Place), as in Death on Delancey.

Now, I rarely listen to the meteorology reports on the radio, or on TV, or on the Internet, as they are, in my experience, rarely an accurate depiction of the actual weather that takes place.

Nonetheless, on Monday, December 1, 2014, I decided to look up the weather report, just in case, and so I visited one of the most accurate weather Websites on the Internet, at this time:  Which stands for the National Oceanic and Atmospheric Administration.

When I entered Philadelphia, I truly had no idea there were so many of them in the United States of America.  However, before I could proceed, the NOAA Website needed me to specify which Philadelphia.  To say that I was amazed, is an understatement.

Some things need to be seen to be believed, so here are all the Philadelphias in this country, as well as American Municipalities that also have “Philadelphia” as a portion of their name.


Philadelphia Station, MD (Harford County)
Philadelphia Point, LA (Ascension Parish)
Philadelphia, IL (Cass County)
Philadelphia, IN (Hancock County)
Philadelphia, VA (City of Suffolk County)
Philadelphia, NC (Richmond County)
Philadelphia, NC (Camden County)
Philadelphia, AL (Houston County)
Philadelphia, AL (Calhoun County)
Philadelphia, TN (Washington County)
Philadelphia, TN (Maury County)
Philadelphia, AR (Craighead County)
Philadelphia, AR (Columbia County)
Philadelphia, NM (Cibola County)
Philadelphia, MO (Marion County)
Philadelphia, NY (Jefferson County)
Philadelphia, PA (Philadelphia County)
Philadelphia, TN (Loudon County)
Philadelphia, MS (Neshoba County)


Also in attendance was Mr. Jason Li, who has been mentioned in the dedications and acknowledgements of Mr. DeMarco’s books.  Indeed, he is a truly good friend to him, and definitely a walking commercial for Joseph R. G. DeMarco, author and writer.

The other person Mr. DeMarco mentions in his mother Caroline, but I do not know if she was in attendance.  Offhand, I do not recall seeing a woman who could be in her 70s or 80s in attendance, but I digress.

Thank you, one and all, for honoring who you are and what you do.  Keep living with great PRIDE.

I rarely read short story books, so I AM certainly looking forward to reading this one.
I rarely read short story books, so I AM certainly looking forward to reading this one.